Yup, but being a parent doesnt make you know things and "the doctor said we should expect this" makes apparently people (at least these ones close to me) complacent to the harm. I am just against the suffering and it makes me upset. While I know this isn't a likely common story its one that is close to home and happening so... Yeah. I dunno. It does at least once. I am happy you are on the right side of empathy to try again with something new to help someone. There should never be 1 answer only and it feels wrong to just accept it.
I dunno this is such a failure of people with authority in my case but authority figure doesnt mean all knowing. And I have no authority to make it stop.