I'm sure you meant femininity and not feminism.

I'm sorry for what happened to you. :( I hope you're doing way better now.

However, there isn't just one way to be a man. I think that's the narrow perception that the concept of masculinity creates.

You don't have to be any special way or have to do anything special to "be a man". Just be.

For centuries, men have been defined through wars and combat, were dominant, violent, and were the main bread winners of the house and were considered the smarter of the two sexes. And women were considered lesser beings, unintelligent and unable to make important decisions like voting, and weaker. They were expected to be servile and it was allowed to give them corporal punishment if they do much as talked back. Men were at the top and women were at the bottom. That's why any man who wasn't didn't have the set of characteristics that made them masculine were often bullied and laughed at. Through feminism however, women had nowhere to go but up and thrive.

Suddenly, men weren't the dominant, smartest bread winners and violence became frowned upon. What was traditionally masculine or the set of characteristics that defined men, also applied to women and some became negative attributes. The lines between femininity and masculinity became blurred.

Women evolved and redefined what it meant to be a woman. And it's basically to just be yourself and do your best to be a good role model. And honestly that could apply to anybody. Not just women.

We need to stop trying to define "what it takes to be a man" and just be. Anyone who doesn't accept that is doomed to stay in the past and not evolve with the rest of society and live in constant frustration.

That's it there, as a younger man most of the relationships I've been in end around 1-3 months in when I start trusting them and open up more emotionally. They almost always start ignoring me, ghost me or tell me it's not working out.

It makes you really just lose confidence in yourself as a person, when you're reserved they want you they want your body, once you open up and you're vulnerable even once everything changes all of the sudden.

I'm lucky to have a girlfriend who doesn't think like that, the fact that she is part of LGBT community probably helps.