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I don’t argue or “debate” online. Most online back-and-forth feels pointless and often intentionally inflammatory or in bad faith. I read all the replies I receive, but I rarely respond.

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[-] Libb@piefed.social 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

"Don't waste my time with your hate or anger (and maybe try to stop wasting your own time too?)"

Disagreeing is to be expected and even welcomed in any discussion. I also don't mind people not sharing my views, and I don't even mind people not 'liking' me (why should I? We're not living together). I do mind ad hominem attacks, insults and bad faith arguments, because those are not a discussion anymore: the idea is not to exchange contradictory arguments anymore but to somehow hurt the other person, or to hurt their reputation in the eyes of other users. The moment I realize what's going on, I will block the person doing that. (edit: I will not try to discuss any further, nor try to explain other participants what I just realized, I will simply say "thx, have a nice day", or something like that, and block them once and for all)

They are free to keep on throwing insults (and non-sense) around if that's what they want their online presence to be... exactly like I'm free, literally freed from wasting a second more of my own time reading them. That's not worth it.

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