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Men's Liberation
This community is first and foremost a feminist community for men and masc people, but it is also a place to talk about men’s issues with a particular focus on intersectionality.
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Recommended Reading
- The Will To Change: Men, Masculinity, And Love by bell hooks
- Politics of Masculinities: Men in Movements by Michael Messner
Related Communities
!feminism@beehaw.org
!askmen@lemmy.world
!mensmentalhealth@lemmy.world
I am glad this perspective is being presented. I think ftm people have a unique view of how difficult it can be to be a man that throws light on a lot of men's issues.
I hope this person can present more along these lines. I think I could come up with hundreds of questions.
I'm a trans guy who transitioned in the 2000s. I'd be happy to answer any questions you have on the unique perspective of men's issues from someone who spent 20 ish years as a woman.
Thank you, Kit.
Here are some questions:
I don't want to wear out my welcome so I'll stop there. No rush to answer, I'd prefer more complete answers to quick ones.
I did also want to mention that one thing blew my mind - The way that the dynamics of a room change when it's all men, versus when there's a single woman in the room. With all men, it seems like guys relax and suddenly don't feel the need to walk on eggshells. Social courtesies become significantly less important and men tend to communicate more directly. Next time you're in a room of all men and a woman walks in, keep an eye out for the subtle differences in how men behave.
This is all very interesting. Thanks again, Kit.
I love that you did this mini AMA. Thank you for that. 🤗
If you yearn for a male only space, check out the Freemasons. There's something there for everyone, and it's a great way to make friends later in life.
I wish there was a safe way for women to take T. I wanna experience clarity of mind and less emotion. I'm also assuming it increases being horny?
To be clear, clarity of mind is my own personal experience and it's unclear if T affected me that way because that's what it's like for everyone or if it can be attributed to dysphoria. In other words, it's possible that I didn't feel right in my body so I couldn't focus on the things around me.
Bear in mind that Estrogen levels drop during menopause so you'll find out one day. :)
My horniness was not impacted by T.
I'm crossing my fingers that you'll get a reply, and not as a PM. I'm bursting with curiosity but such things are so very difficult to even have opportunity to be enlightened.
I replied above just now. I got stuck on #4 and thought on it for the night.
Would you be able to answer some more questions please? I'm interested to hear more of your opinion and experience!
Thank you!
I did not find that people take me more seriously at work as a man. However, I work in tech and all companies I have worked are focused on ensuring that women have an equal place at the table. I imagine that other fields yield different results. -- I did want to note that I had the opposite experience with healthcare. As a woman, doctors were less likely to take me seriously. As a man, they take anything I say to be the truth and trust me to make decisions.
Disadvantages of being male are:
FWIW, I hire in Tech, and our percentage of female applicants is incredibly low, usually under 1%. I do pay extra attention to their resumes, but often they aren't even close to qualified for the position.
Thank you for sharing!