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Men's Liberation
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Recommended Reading
- The Will To Change: Men, Masculinity, And Love by bell hooks
- Politics of Masculinities: Men in Movements by Michael Messner
Related Communities
!feminism@beehaw.org
!askmen@lemmy.world
!mensmentalhealth@lemmy.world
The way I've always said it is "it's women's rights not men's wrongs"
Maybe, we as men, not so much society start pushing that, instead of waiting for others to do it for us.
We need to counter Lad Culture with telling them that talking about their feelings isn't a pussy action. That we don't have to wait for a wife to use as a therapist and surrogate mother.
When you see men pushing the toxic policies of "suck it up" on other guys with no cares to the background information, we need to call out the toxicity.
Things won't get better so long as we enable the worst
Friends and family are the best, or at least the first therapist you should see. An actual therapist is required when the other two failed. That's how a sane family or group of friends should work at least.
Often, found family for finding that assistance.
Another thing that we as men don't want to admit (generalized statement,) are that traumas we suffer can often come from a familial source, and that distrust can poison our attempts to reach out to others.
Worse, those traumas can give improper perceptions about how a family works, and give frustrations due to finding out that your previously assumed normal life was in reality quite damaging for viewpoints when confronting how all the easy lessons we were taught were dead, decayed, and buried by 1970, if not earlier, and we're working on tertiary information from unreliable sources that are grasping to the past to maintain control in their own lives.
I get what you're saying (I hope ;-) ) and agree that women are allowed to do things that men aren't.
[TW: Suicide, violence] I also think there are important differences between male privileges and female "privileges". Male "disadvantages"* are generally still in the control of males. Military service is (or at least was) something that men (as a class) did to themselves, because they were the rulers. Prohibiting women from working or having a bank account was not something women had control over. Men commit suicide more often than women, but a suicide is still something that is ultimately in your hands - being murdered by your (ex-)partner or some stranger in a park isn't. Of course it isn't really that clear cut: how much control do you have when you are suffering from depression? And how much are you to blame for not seeking help when you've been trained you're whole life to be "independent" and not show (or even feel) emotions?
But while it's definitely not clear cut, I still think there are enough systematic differences to make distinction useful. Especially as the male privileges are much more in tune with what our society values: people get praised for getting shit done (be it fixing cars or shooting them into space), nation wide stories about being a good listener or friend are much rarer. You can amass insane amounts of money, and people will actually admire you instead of calling you greedy, while at least in Germany people start to have prejudices if you have more than two or three kids.
(*english is not my native language so I'm not as nuanced as I'd like to be)