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Why wouldn’t you want to get married
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There are no benefits in it for me. Financially I make enough to stay single. Relationships take a lot of work and I’ve never felt like they added value to my life.
This is interesting to me. When I originally asked the question, I was mostly thinking about people in relationships and why they wouldn’t want to make that legal commitment. tbh I think not wanting to be in a relationship at all is probably the best reason to not get married. forgive me if im overstepping, but have you always wanted to be single?
Great question. I think I genuinely wanted to be with my first partner who I was with from 15-19. After that, primarily the motivator was to pay the bills/not starve. Even in my fieldwork I made a decent wage so I wasn’t necessarily a bad partner financially. But I have received the same feedback from the 2/3 that cheated. I’m too cold, I think I’m smarter than everyone else, and I’m too particular. With that in mind, and no longer having to worry about starving…staying single is my best bet. My previous partner was also incredibly unkind, sort of dealing the death blow.