how is this being upvoted?? is lemmy really this misogynist?

you DO realize how horrible it is to hear “I think you’re more dangerous than a random bear just for existing”?

Dating men is a minefield. Discarding caution because "it might not be necessary" goes against the point of caution. They feel safer encountering a bear because the bear leaves them alone if left alone. Some men, on the contrary, would actively do something bad even if left alone. The point is not that all or most men are like this. It's that they can be and assuming that they aren't is unsafe.

And this isn’t supposed to give men lasting mental health issues and extreme social anxiety?

No?? Strangers not trusting you is perfectly normal. If you think you are owed trust because all women will magically know that you're trustworthy, you aren't trustworthy.