Ok. So we gonna apply that to straight people too?

my problem with this is that aspects of identity that people are oppressed on need to be discussed within a framework of undoing that oppression. we have to talk about race because people are oppressed based on their race. we have to talk about sexuality because people are oppressed based on their sexuality. i would even say we have a great societal failing in which indigenous religions aren't respected or studied, and are all sublimated and eliminated by christianity, islam, and buddhism. many religions contain a group's collected collective wisdom. there's even valuable wisdom to be found in christianity, islam, and buddhism, lest anyone think i am trying to speak outright against these, but we should be studying the collected wisdoms of both these smaller religions and bigger religions because when you draw everything from one source you become stuck in orthodoxy instead of open to possibilities.

here in north america, there are even religions which preach that queer identities serve a specific societal role and are to be celebrated and loved just like the child bearing identities. until we reach a point where a religion like that is allowed to be seen and heard without being labeled as pagan heathens to be purified, i think we have to talk about both. it's one of those things where when there is an oppressed group and you choose to remain neutral, you are taking the side of the opressor

So, no kissing or hand holding in public? Isn't that a bit too uptight?

I mean if it's in media about romance, friendship, whatever (think some of the parts or stranger things, I guess?) it's fine

If I'm watching Saving Private Ryan it would be fucking awkward to just randomly learn Ryan is trans or some shit.

It's all about presentation, as with all things.