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submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) by youCanCallMeDragon@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

For context, I’m circumcised and expecting a son and my wife and I are torn about the circ. We’re American so from a cultural standpoint circumcision is the default choice. Thing is, there’s no real benefit besides practicing a religion we don’t believe in, and I’m uncomfortable about cutting the tip of my son’s dick off.

On the other side, I’ve met a guy who was bullied in high school so bad for it he got a circ as an adult. Apparently crazy painful recovery. I’ve also talked to women who are generally grossed out by uncircumcised men. I don’t want to make him feel like something’s wrong with him his whole life because I was uncomfortable with the idea.

From a moral standpoint I’m against it, but from a social and cultural standpoint I feel like I should do it? It’s a crappy situation. If there’s any uncircumcised American men who want to talk about their penis I’m all ears.

Edit: I really appreciate everyone’s responses I never expected to hear from so many people. With the decision hinging on social and cultural norms it’s been really helpful to be able to take the temperature like this. I obviously need to talk to my wife, but given the overwhelming support of dick hats I don’t thing we’re going to do it. Thanks, lemmings!

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[-] compostgoblin 24 points 1 week ago

If you want your child to resent you for mutilating them with unnecessary surgery without their consent, go for it. If you want to be a good parent, don’t.

[-] baronvonj@lemmy.world 8 points 1 week ago

That's a really broad and unfounded assumption that every circumcised boy grows up to resent their parents over it.

[-] compostgoblin 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

It is broad, yeah. And I can’t speak for everyone, but speaking from my own experience, I certainly resent that my parents made that decision for me. Especially given that there’s no medical reason for it, I don’t see any reason why someone should violate someone else’s bodily autonomy like that.

Edit: also, not a boy :)

[-] baronvonj@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

Yeah I can't say I'm not without some level of discontent over it. I just dislike blanket statements about peoples' attitudes and opinions without a citation.

[-] compostgoblin 2 points 1 week ago
[-] baronvonj@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

🍻 and apologies about assuming gender in your original comment.

[-] compostgoblin 2 points 1 week ago

Cheers 🍻 and I appreciate it, but it’s all good! It’s a reasonable assumption to make, given the context

[-] davidagain@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I dislike people who throw shade at others for not providing scientific studies whilst not providing any scientific evidence whatsoever to back up their own contrary view.

[-] baronvonj@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

Ok, you do you.

[-] danciestlobster@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 week ago

Imma be honest here I grew up never really thinking much about it either way but now that I am reading this thread and about an apparent loss of sensitivity I'm wondering if I have been missing out my whole life.

[-] Canconda@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I'm cut. I think people overblow how much of a difference it makes. Not saying it make's no difference whatsoever... but the people acting like their dick doesn't work anymore need to cut back on porn or something.

[-] SwingingTheLamp@midwest.social 3 points 1 week ago

It's not controversial to say that women differ sexually, right? For example, some women can orgasm from penetration alone, and others need more-direct clitoral stimulation. Everybody knows this, or should know this.

Would it be controversial to claim that, hey, perhaps men differ, too? What if we're not exaggerating how much of a difference it makes? There are intact men right here in this discussion who say that most of their sensation comes from their foreskin, and they don't feel much from their glans. It would destroy their enjoyment of sex to cut it off, even while many men wouldn't notice much change, because most of their sensation comes from the glans.

[-] rikudou@lemmings.world 2 points 1 week ago

Yeah, many people who don't think a consent is something important don't resent their parents over it. Not sure their opinion matters to me, but technically you're right.

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