On the other side, I’ve met a guy who was bullied in high school so bad for it he got a circ as an adult. Apparently crazy painful recovery. I’ve also talked to women who are generally grossed out by uncircumcised men. I don’t want to make him feel like something’s wrong with him his whole life because I was uncomfortable with the idea.

I feel like this would happen as well to folks that are circumcised often enough of like "there was something wrong with me so they had to cut a bit off" I dunno... I think that most of this idea of grossness comes from this weird idea that it's inherently unclean. But it takes literally five seconds to pull back the foreskin and rinse it in the shower.

Also, not for nothing but if you have an intersex child with genital variation, doctor's use the excuse of doing a circumcision to perform even worse forms of genital mutilation, like peenectomy and then vulvoplasty (the surgeries trans women get). They'll hand your child back to you and go "oops, we mucked up, they're actually a girl" without ever getting your consent. About 1.7% of babies are born with visible intersex traits by the way (the rate of intersex people is much higher but those conditions are usually found in puberty or later).

Did they know that outside of America, Catholics do not expect that, I thought it was a Jewish thing.