I've visited before, yes, and I know exactly what you mean lol. I felt the same way when I was there, the freedom of movement and quality of life about everything is so incredible that you just have to experience it yourself to believe it. I think visiting with my partner would help, but that's a lot of money at a relatively short timescale to prepare in case things get really bad. We could do it, but...

What's the Discord you're using to learn Dutch? I've actually been "learning" for a few years just using Duolingo and I've been pretty lazy over the last year so I've stalled. Netherlands was actually always my goal before I even started dating my partner, which is partly contributing to our problems I think.