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People whose parents have become fascist, how are you dealing with it? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 1 month ago by pep@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I have 2 GOP parents, one that voted Trump originally and one that did not. Over the last 9 years, I have watched them both travel down the MAGA pipeline to become visibly fascist. The parents who taught me racism was wrong and to have empathy for others, have become openly hostile about immigrants, Muslims, and even parrot the Nazi "great replacement" theory.

Part and parcel with this, they refuse to have any discussions about the facts -- like immigrants not stealing and eating people's pets. They won't hear it, they won't even engage in the conversation...they just get angry and loud the second they hear anything that doesn't fit into the Fox News narrative. Can you relate? How are you dealing with it in your relationships with your parents?

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[-] N0t_5ure@lemmy.world 6 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

There is no good answer, and you have to find what is right for you. I've been around too many toxic people for too long, and at this point I feel like I don't owe anyone my time or attention, family or not. Setting solid boundaries has worked wonders for my mental health. While I would love to have a good, healthy relationship with my family, I cannot make that happen by myself. They have to meet me halfway, and when they engage in behaviors that I wouldn't tolerate from anyone else, it reminds me that I shouldn't tolerate it from them either. People get so hung up on "but he's your father" or "it's your family," but the people that say that have no idea what I've been through and no frame of reference. It is absolutely 100% the right thing to minimize or eliminate contact with abusive people, even if they are your family.

[-] Maeve@kbin.earth 1 points 1 month ago

I think that's a valid option for you, and may not be for others. But there can be other reasons besides "but they're family."

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