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As a parent now myself, I've used the "because I said so" line.
I have a personal rule however. When I've used it, I make a point to sit down and explain why. It might be after we have all cooled off, or after the stress is gone.
It gives them a sense of what went wrong. In the moment, they also know they will get an explanation eventually. Lastly, it keeps me honest. No using it because I can't explain in a way that doesn't make me look bad.
It's worth noting, parenting is HARD. Our generation at least has the advantage of modern information and science. The generations before us were stuck with hearsay and hope. Recognise their mistakes, but try not too judge them too harshly for them.
Exactly! Not NOW! is perfectly reasonable.
The purpose of explaining rules is to give kids the ability to choose to behave intelligently, IMO. If they think rules are arbitrary, which is the impression given by "because I said so", they have no tools to use to make good decisions. Ideally, the explanation happens before things go wrong, to minimize how many times that happens.
Fully agreed on that. It generally only comes out when explaining the rule, in the moment, will either cause compounding issues, or is unfeasible. I've also used it once or twice, while running near my own mental limits.
Nah I'll judge mine for many of their mistakes because they were not forced nor ignorant mistakes. A lot of them were because I'm on the young side of many children, so they were largely checked out of parenting by then.