1016
on the male loneliness epidemic
(lemmy.blahaj.zone)
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Screenshot of a Tumblr post by nongunktional:
when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue
to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence
I don't want to come across as a mysogynist or a misanthrope but this "It's your fault that you're lonely because you're a trash human that nobody wants to sleep with" infuriates me, because I get that shit enough from my own head without it coming from outside as well.
I don't want to just sleep with someone, I want to be able to comfortably enjoy my time with people I like and then maybe meet someone likeminded enough to build a relationship with.
I have a few friends, and spend time with them whenever I can, but 99% of my time is spent working or at home recovering from work.
I know there's the whole "You have to get out there and socialise." and "Get a hobby and you'll meet new people." But how does a single man even approach people without coming across as weird or creepy?
For obvious reasons I should probably clarify that I'm aware my brain doesn't work like regular people's do, and am probably doing the same shit as the old "people online; 'Having throw pillows makes you part of the bourgeoisie' / People irl; 'Hey man how's it going?' " tweet, but god damn if it isn't hard to have the confidence to meet people irl when all you see is things like the 'bear in a forest' trope and news stories about violent abusers reinforcing negative self bias.
Who knows. Maybe I just need to throw my nightmare rectangle off a cliff and buy a phone that only does 4 things, text, call, tell the time and play snake.