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Request: basic communication skills
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this post was submitted on 24 Aug 2025
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Afaik, there is only so much that can be done there without medication. Medication is the single biggest impact on ADHD (not so much other things, such as Autism, but ADHD definitely).
Otherwise, the main thing that will need to be trained is you. You could have her write out an outline of what she wants to cover and cross off each item as she gets through it, so the visual reminder helps her... but she won't remember to even start on the outline unless you remind her, right?
I am no expert, but this video helps me understand things: https://youtu.be/SCAGc-rkIfo.
I like the outline idea! I suspect it's the abstraction that makes conversation difficult. A physical, manipulatable, visual reminder might help. You've given me an idea for like... a dry erase worksheet.
Unfortunately, she's already medicated - the maximum daily adderall dosage plus strattera. I think she'd do a lot better if she added in lifestyle changes like improving her sleep hygiene, exercising, meditating, reminder systems, etc (that's what keeps me okay), but we need to get where I can discuss that with her without the conversation quickly going off the rails.
Yes it will be difficult, and the medication I would presume would help clear the way for the upcoming changes, being somewhat necessary though frustratingly not fully sufficient to accomplish everything entirely on its own:-).