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I'm in the process of doing the above and would like to hear about your experience. Were there any surprises? What was as you expected?

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[-] lowspeedchase@lemmy.dbzer0.com 69 points 2 days ago

How small are we talking? I moved from a large city (Ft. Lauderdale, FL 185k people) to an insanley large city (Brooklyn, NY 2.6 million) then as a sort of whip lash decided I wanted rural living so I took my RV to an area I was thinking of buying a few acres in (Mossyrock, WA ~1000 people) and plopped for a few months. It was not for me. Real "one coffee shop, one restaraunt, one bar" type place and while I loved it initially, the pain-in-the ass of day to day living was too much. Think 20 min drives to the closest gas station, 45 min drives to the nearest large grocer.

After moving around the area quite a bit, I landed on a place with ~35k people and to me, after two years, I am still loving it. Feels like small town rural living but downtown is a 10 min drive away with a bunch of eateries, bars, nightlife, etc.

Pros of 'smaller' town living (after trying a few areas that passed the vibe check):

  • Community. With everything going on in the world right now it feels like you are powerless. Shrinking the scope of your action to your neighbors and your immediate area empowers you to make change in a way you've never felt before. You can participate and have direct impact in all sorts of ways, from city council meetings, to improvement projects, to just participating in a local farmers market.
  • Safety. Some people may see this as a negative, and I guess it could be depending on how invasive your direct neighbors are lol, but for me on 5 acres it's been incredible. Everyone knows if something is amiss and are not afraid to 'ring the alarm' as it were. When I first bought the property I was parking along the road as it was very overgrown, countless people stopped and asked if I needed help with the car (assuming I had broken down) then proceeded to introduce themselves and have met a ton of people in this way.
  • Affordability. Land and housing is cheaper, groceries stay the same (assuming you are near a main interstate). You can buy a house for the price of an apartment in a large city.
  • Quiet. Being in a large city is being in the belly of the beast. The gears are turning all night long. With smaller city living, it's the opposite, peace and quiet, take a deep breath and relax. Night life and night owls still exist, but you have to go hunt them down.
  • Less Police Presence. Crime rates drop inordinately as the population decreases, and with that, you see a lot less "boys in blue" - furthermore, because it's usually just a few people, you get to know them and have less anxiety with interactions.
  • Gardens and Greenery. Speaks for itself, less population density == less concrete paradise == more biodiversity.

Cons:

  • Commute. If you don't have a WFH gig, most smaller cities will not have an abundance of the type of work you do. You'll most likely have a commute so somewhere with light rail might be awesome for you if that's the case.
  • Gentrification. Depending on where you come from and where you are moving to, you might be seen as a sort of 'colonizer.' I don't get that sneer but I did get several people making sure I was not coming from California LOL.
  • Slower Pace. In FL it's known colloquially as "Cuban Time" basically meaning that time estimates should be taken with a grain of salt. The pace of the life is slower in a small town and you might find services taking forever to be completed. If you can relax and go with the flow though, it shouldn't be too much of an issue.

Ok this turned into an essay, this new coffee bean smacks. Best of luck!

[-] socsa@piefed.social 26 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Small town only feel safer until you end up pissing off the wrong person with the right influence. And then it feels like living in some Mafia nightmare. It doesn't even take pissing people off either. Tell someone you are gay in secret? Now half the town thinks you are a pedophile.

Small town "safety" is a myth for the privileged. The crime gap is also kind of a myth. Most small town police departments won't even write a report for domestic violence unless someone ends up in the hospital.

[-] lowspeedchase@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 1 day ago

I'm sorry you have had bad experiences and they've stuck with you. I wish you the best in the future!

[-] DioDurant@slrpnk.net 24 points 2 days ago

I'm going from a city of 300k to a town of 2k. Fortunately there's a gas station and groceries in town, less than 5 minutes driving / totally walkable for small hauls.

All the pros you mentioned are things I'm looking forward to. I do WFH so no crazy commutes!

Thanks for sharing!

[-] lowspeedchase@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 2 days ago

You're going to love it - I can tell. Enjoy it!!

[-] Ugurcan@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago

- **Less Police Presence**. Crime rates drop inordinately as the population decreases, and with that, you see a lot less "boys in blue" - furthermore, because it's usually just a few people, you get to know them and have less anxiety with interactions.

That’s not the impression I got from Twin Peaks 🧐

[-] Reverendender@sh.itjust.works 7 points 2 days ago

This all mostly tracks with my experience in southern Aroostook county, Maine. I moved here at the end of June. My town has 400 people. However, I do not mind the things that bothered u/lowspeedchase. Not usually anyway, lol. I have 10 acres of land, and my house was very inexpensive. I moved from dense suburban Massachusetts. I DO WFH, and I have high speed internet here. I’m quite happy!

[-] lowspeedchase@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 2 days ago

That's awesome! I am supposed to get fiber in 6 months but with them neutering the rural broadband fund it might not happen, color me jealous!

[-] Reverendender@sh.itjust.works 7 points 2 days ago

I’ve read a couple of articles in the last few years about a couple regular people who implemented municipal fiber in their communities and charge very low rates. I’m seriosly considering seeing if that’s feasible here. Current internet is coaxial that comes in on telephone poles. Somehow they finagle gigabit download speeds with it.

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