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It sounds like for you to understand the existence of trans people you probably first need to accept that other people experience gender and sexuality differently than the way you do
Before I do that though, I'm commenting a follow-up to ask you to elaborate on if there's something specific I can introspect on. I'll read and think over the next few days.
One last edit:
Logging off is because I know this is an issue I have. Right now I don't have much to be proud of other than my character, so in a moment I'm bad at listening and taking in criticisms that might suggest bigotry, because it feels like an attack on my identity. I'm aware that in reality I should be listening and not fighting, it just takes me an unreasonable amount of time and I act like a jackass until I've processed. Hence, logging out to introspect. Better late than never.
I'll introspect on that. It generally takes me time to digest. I'm embarrassed here. But I do agree that gender-affirming care is the correct treatment. I read your response like I was not explicit about being in favor of it.
I think I should log off and mull on it because right now I'm just being an asshole. I'm a very slow learner and it generally takes a few days after I argue vehemently against something for it to sink in that I was wrong. I interpreted the first response like you thought I was arguing it should be addressed in a way other than gender-affirming care and responded like that was an attack, which is really shitty of me and pretty embarrassing.