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this post was submitted on 19 Aug 2025
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I fully acknowledge that there's a double standard. But at the same time I think it would be short sighted to draw the conclusion that women have it easier. It's different, yes. But there's other issues associated with being labeled as "more emotional".
But my main point is that being frustrated about how society works instead of either taking action (like joining a free support group that meets irl or via zoom, seeking therapy, team sport or whatever else) or even just accepting that things work the way they do has never done anything except make the person who dwells on it even sadder.
I never said that and didn't see any comments like that at the time I commented.
But good job swooping into a discussion about men's challenges and making it about women!
I'm not trying to make it about women. I'm a guy myself btw. To me the frustration with that double standard kinda implied the feeling of having it harder. Thinking about it it probably doesn't. It wasnt malice, I genuinely have a hard time understanding this mindset.
I'm curious how an individual is supposed to make things better by slamming their head against a double standard. The frustration comes from attempting something and being repeatedly shut down.
From personal experience, speaking with a therapist doesn't keep people in general from negatively reacting to me trying to solicit support. "Don't be frustrated" isn't a solution. Best case is coming to grips with a shitty double standard, which helps people who are actually self destructive because of it, sure.
But a lot of us are just sick of it and want to have the existence ofnthe double standard acknowledged without being told how women have it worse. Both (all) genders suffer from double standards!
I'm a man myself and so are many of my friends.