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on the male loneliness epidemic
(lemmy.blahaj.zone)
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Screenshot of a Tumblr post by nongunktional:
when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue
to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence
As a man experiencing a lack of friendship, camaraderie, and emotion connection, regardless of fault or cause, the OP reduces that experience to "not getting laid". That affects me regardless of never actually using the phrase "male loneliness epidemic" to describe anything, of whether I fall into some 100 pages of "exceptions", or that the post doesn't explicitly say "those experiences don't exist". To say that the OP doesn't actually communicate that is to simply close one's eyes to an inconvenient truth of how people work.
Being told something has an impact. Even if it can be rationalized as "not about me". Even if what was said isn't what was intended. Even if some comments express support for people like me (and ignoring everyone who doubles down on it). Even if "big boy learns people say mean things sometimes". What do you think that impact is gonna be here? For someone sharing my experiences who doesn't stop to dig into this post, I doubt that impact is to move them towards being the sort of healthy, happy person we'd want.
Do you go on the internet often? All posts are like this. All posts generalize. All posts have a long list of implicit exceptions that are not stated.
Would you get upset about a post that says having bad spelling is a skill issue that could be fixed with practice, even though you appear not to have a skill issue with spelling?
If your answer is yes, then you should get off the internet, it is literally doing damage to you. You are literally jumping in front of bullets that are not meant for you.