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submitted 1 week ago by choihanna@lemmy.zip to c/askmen@lemmy.world

So before anything I'm a trans woman (20), I do not claim to be a real woman or try to put women down or mock them. So please I'd like to ask you to abstein from comments about it because I already know what I am.

I've been trying dating apps because they feel safer than just dating people from your daily life when I was a teen (friends and classmates).

I do have a note on my profile that notifies these men about what I am before they can chat with me, some unmatch, others will say bad stuff before leaving, but another big amount stay. Everything goes fine we chat for a long time, we have a few dates, but in the end they all seem to lose interest at some point.

It just makes me so tired of meeting a lot of different men every month. I don't understand what they want.

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[-] dumples@midwest.social 3 points 1 week ago

You are doing all of the right steps. You are clear up front about who you are and what you want. Ignore the people who unmatch and say bad things. You are telling them one thing and they are telling you everything about them (that they are assholes).

The thing about dating is every relationships will not work out until it does. So until you hit the one that last it will feel like nothing but failures. Also note that a successful relationships doesn't have to mean until one of you is dead. If you date for a while, have fun and then don't work out in the end that is a successful short term relationship if you don't damage each other in the process. Dating especially on the apps sucks for everyone. You are not alone in this regard. Keep on the apps and attempt to meet people IRL via groups, hobbies, volunteers events and other interests you have. People like happy people and people are happy when doing things they love.

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