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submitted 1 week ago by choihanna@lemmy.zip to c/askmen@lemmy.world

So before anything I'm a trans woman (20), I do not claim to be a real woman or try to put women down or mock them. So please I'd like to ask you to abstein from comments about it because I already know what I am.

I've been trying dating apps because they feel safer than just dating people from your daily life when I was a teen (friends and classmates).

I do have a note on my profile that notifies these men about what I am before they can chat with me, some unmatch, others will say bad stuff before leaving, but another big amount stay. Everything goes fine we chat for a long time, we have a few dates, but in the end they all seem to lose interest at some point.

It just makes me so tired of meeting a lot of different men every month. I don't understand what they want.

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[-] SomethingBlack@lemmy.world 16 points 1 week ago

I don't understand what they want

Most people don't understand what other people want. To start, don't try to figure out what they want. Focus on what you want. Do they meet your wants/needs in a potential partner. If they do ask them what they're looking for in a potential partner.

As is commonly discussed, communication is the most important part of a functioning relationship. If you don't know what you want, how can you communicate it to your partner.

If you don't ask and they don't tell you what they want, there is no tried and true way to find out.

Dating is about finding someone compatible, if we could tell you what all men and all women want wouldn't every man and every woman automatically be compatible?

Find your person by meaningfully talking to people, not asking the internet to give you catch-all tips and tricks.

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