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Woman in a wheelchair saying: “THERE IS NO MARRIAGE EQUALITY UNTIL PEOPLE WITH DISABILITIES CAN MARRY WITHOUT LOSING BENEFITS”
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couldn't you just get a divorce and not mention it? no one has to know you're technically not legally married, just keep wearing the rings.
the government shouldn't be the arbiter of whether you're married or not, you and your friends and family are.
It was a really long discussion but it came down to the fact that marriage means a lot to both of us regardless of what others think.
that's kinda what i mean though, staying legally married despite economic disadvantages sounds to me like you care more about what the government thinks than you do about simply proclaiming the love to each other.