I think it's really important to think of sexuality as a vast array of different activities, each of which you can separately consent to and define your own rules around. "Asexuality" as a label doesn't mean being a completely nonsexual being, and it doesn't have to be a permanent label either. I think of it as a kind of asterisk - something in here needs clarification, please ask! So things like not enjoying penetrative sex, enjoying close physicality more than intercourse, all that stuff can be asexuality if that's a useful term for you to communicate your needs. But also like any label there's shades to it and it never means exactly the same thing to two different people.

I'm disabled and while I definitely enjoy sex, being an active partner is often pretty difficult and oftentimes I'm too out of my body to enjoy it much anyway. And some of the time I'm gonna be best at meeting my own needs. But even in that case, I still enjoy intimacy, being perceived as sexy, etc. people that care enough to ask will be able to find ways to engage, people that don't care enough to have a real conversation about it aren't a good fit for me anyhow. It's been very helpful!