how did you deal with your parents cutting you off if they did? (self.queer_muslims)

submitted 1 month ago by Teknevra to c/queer_muslims

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Hello,

This is easily the hardest thing i’ve ever done.

2 weeks ago in the middle of the night i took all my things and left. my parents have been begging for me to come back saying how i am disrespecting them, my family, and religion. at first they wanted me to come home and kept calling me my grandparents came from out of town.

i was too scared to go back they offered me everything one exchange for living with them and being in their religion.

yesterday i told them that leaving my girlfriend will be hard and i cannot suppress my feelings like they want.

anyway if you imagine the worst it was that.

i literally read to hold my mom down from expiring. my dad beat the shit out of me bc i am doing this to my mom.

i am 23 i am young idk if i go back and just stfu for my whole life or just keep going. someone please help i am so scared.

yesterday she told me i can come back and have the life i want as long as it’s halal and obeys god. but if i dont come back i can consider them dead. i just need help is it worth it to choose myself over my family?

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[-] max 1 points 1 month ago

I hope you all the best, I just want to say one thing, are you safe? To left your family?

I cut mine this month, but everything was planned, I live alone for 2y, finances are stable, a lot of emergency plans, etc

Do what you need to be safe, being in the closet is better if means you'll be safe, just keep going and wait, time will eventually come and you'll be you.

If you're stable, have support to where to go, like friends etc is something to consider, but in the end, it's up to you, take care sweety

One advice, hide everything, friends, crush, life goals etc if you decide to live back with your family, less they know less they can use to hurt you

this post was submitted on 21 May 2025

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