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Why won't you try your luck at love again? Buying a house is easier done with a partner who works too...
That's one part that's really killing me, not having the relationship makes not having the house pretty much guaranteed.
It's sorta complicated, but mostly I'm just not a desirable person and I live in an area that's predominantly really really old people. With my lack of education and the general state of the economy, moving away from my job never felt smart and because of where I live moving is really complicated. I can't get a new job first because the move would put to way too far for a commute so you're stuck in that "how can I get a place to live without a job, and how do I get a job without a place to live?" situation.
This is one thing you need to resolve. People pick up on this and it is self-sabotage. I bet you judge yourself far more harshly than anyone else does and things you think are bad about yourself no one even pays attention too.
As far as the other issues lots of people have dealt with it. You obviously need to move and I'd study what job opportunities are possible out there. I'd keep an open mind about what jobs I could do too. Save up what money you can to get a new place. I suspect you don't have much stuff so the act of moving could be as easy as renting a u-haul. Jobs almost always will accommodate a new person if they need a few weeks to move if you tell them up front. Believe me, if I could do it anyone can.
as someone who went through this exact situation, I decided to just say "fuck it" and kinda threw myself out into the universe, with the understanding that if I failed the landing I was probably just going to die. I was homeless for a little bit, and the first job I had was a lot shittier than anything I'd worked before, but it is possible. The biggest issue I'd say is the lack of education; however, my partner at the time only had a high school diploma and was able to leverage his service industry experience to quickly find work.
Yes, at a certain point you have to pull the trigger. I've found that my fear of possible problems has been far greater than reality and I was always able to find a way around them and progress. Blind faith in yourself, even if you have to pretend, really helps. lol
I'm sorry you're in such circumstances, yeah, it's kinda shit... But hopefully you're wrong about being undesirable and someone good and not too old comes along! Maybe it could start online? Anyway, sorry again, God bless you.
No worries, thanks for the kind words! Hope you have a great weekend! :)