I could say, that attention for what? Just the way you look or act? Is there any value in that? What does that attention give you? Does it somehow indicate or elevate your value? And what does it say about you that you seek it out?

All that to say, what do you mean by the question and what are the underlying assumptions?

I don't really want to stand out. I want to exceed my own expectations, but attention is not really something I want. My own perception of myself is not perfect, but I do value myself and I know I am capable. And I know others don't always see it. But the answer to that is to entangle your self-worth from how others perceive you. Exist on your own, independent from the perception of others.

And I don't want to compare myself to other women and point out how I am different. What's the good in that? They are a person in themselves and so am I. We both have a complex human nature.