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To this day, she remembers the racing thoughts, the instant nausea, the hairs prickling up on her legs, the sweaty palms. She had shared a photograph of herself in her underwear with a boy she trusted and, very soon, it had been sent around the school and across her small home town, Aberystwyth, Wales. She became a local celebrity for all the wrong reasons. Younger kids would approach her laughing and ask for a hug. Members of the men’s football team saw it – and one showed someone who knew Davies’s nan, so that’s how her family found out.

Her book, No One Wants to See Your D*ck, takes a deep dive into the negatives. It covers Davies’s experiences in the digital world – that includes cyberflashing such as all those unsolicited dick pics – as well as the widespread use of her images on pornography sites, escort services, dating apps, sex chats (“Ready for Rape? Role play now!” with her picture alongside it). However, the book also shines a light on the dark online men’s spaces, what they’re saying, the “games” they’re playing. “I wanted to show the reality of what men are doing,” says Davies. “People will say: ‘It’s not all men’ and no, it isn’t, but it also isn’t a small number of weirdos on the dark web in their mum’s basements. These are forums with millions of members on mainstream sites such as Reddit, Discord and 4chan. These are men writing about their wives, their mums, their mate’s daughter, exchanging images, sharing women’s names, socials and contact details, and no one – not one man – is calling them out. They’re patting each other on the back.”

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[-] rumba@lemmy.zip 21 points 1 day ago

Unsolicited naked pics have no place in society. We're not talking porn here, we're talking Joe sending a picture of his schlong to Mary like she is going to be ohh yeah let's do that.

People with that mindset are seriously damaging other people. They're the reason women are afraid to go on walks at dusk.

The penalty for that deserves some staying power. You're on the list; to get off the list, you need counseling and a psych eval. I'd go so far as to say mandatory house arrest until you get the counseling and eval.

[-] randomname@sh.itjust.works 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

its weird and gross to do, but like how is seeing people naked so bothering to you people?? would a nude beach cause you to have a brain hemorrhage?. if I see something like that it doesn't hurt me mentally somehow??

[-] flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 1 day ago

The difference between the nude beach and getting unsolicited dick pics, is if you go to a nude beach, you kinda agreed to see naked people.

[-] rumba@lemmy.zip 17 points 1 day ago

to you people?

Seeing naked people is fine, if someone asks for it.

Someone forcing you to see them naked for their own pleasure is rapey.

[-] randomname@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 day ago

I understand the intentions behind it, but I've never given a crap when someone sends me a dick pic. I just block them and move on with my day. It just seems like people in this comment section over react to this. (the other stuff is fucked up though)

[-] rumba@lemmy.zip 12 points 1 day ago

Ignoring the problem is the right individual move, but as a society, it simply tells the person doing it that it's ok and there won't be consequences for it.

It's a dick pick for you today, but it might be their unwilling coworker in the alley when they work themselves up to it.

It's a psychiatric issue and if everyone ignores it, it won't just go away, it just becomes someone else's problem.

this post was submitted on 30 Apr 2025
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