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Thoughts on having more than one non-barriered sexual partner (mtgzone.com)
submitted 2 years ago by morphballganon@mtgzone.com to c/polyamory@lemmy.world
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Hello everyone. I recently learned there are a handful of people in my community who engage in non-barriered intercourse by default (sex with multiple partners without condoms).

I try to keep to only one non-barriered partner, to minimize any STI spread that may occur. Though testing is important, there are risks that 1. A test may be wrong, and 2. An infection can be introduced and spread after a successful clean test.

Also, my partner has a history of getting BV if her non-barriered partner(s) have other non-barriered partners. So, we keep it to only one non-barriered partner (for intercourse).

Any thoughts on this? Is it ethical to have more than one? Is it sustainable to only have one?

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[-] punkisundead@slrpnk.net 4 points 2 years ago

I think that really depends on your own risk preference. I personally would not want to have unprotected sex with someone who as a default has sex without barriers and I might need more precise communication how we would practice safer sex. If its relevant think I would also want to talk about contraception and how they would deal with (unwanted) pregnancies in their relationships.

But I dont see anything unethical about this assuming this happens in the context of informed consent and without weird power inbalances.

Is it sustainable to only have one?

I think that really depends on you and how you want to go forward. I can see how this might become an issue in situations where having barrierless sex is important in more than one of your relationships.

this post was submitted on 24 Jul 2023
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