If you know a gendered language, do you prefer using gendered vocabulary for yourself or gender neutral? (lemmy.ca)

submitted 4 months ago by voytek709@lemmy.ca to c/nonbinary

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Everyone is different. Some people who are non binary but lean/present as feminine might use feminine words, but others I’ve seen use the masculine because they think modifying the grammar is complicated.

I personally use the gender-neutral modified language, like using elle in Spanish.

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[-] hellfire103@lemmy.ca 8 points 4 months ago

I generally prefer neutral language (person, they/them, etc.), but I go through phases where I don't care if I get called he or she instead.

[-] voytek709@lemmy.ca 4 points 4 months ago

That makes sense! I generally don’t care what I’m called (he or she), but I prefer neutral language. I used to hate (but not as much now) gendered terms such as “What’s up my man?” Or “This man”.

[-] hellfire103@lemmy.ca 4 points 4 months ago

Yeah, I quite like "what's up my man?", but I'm not a fan of "this man".

I generally enjoy feminine stuff as well, simply because it's different, but I prefer neutral.

[-] voytek709@lemmy.ca 5 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

For the languages I’m learning:

Spanish, I generally prefer terms like elle (they), amigue (friend, gender neutral), etc.

Similarly, elu with Portuguese

Dukaisms with Polish

And hen for Norwegian

[-] voytek709@lemmy.ca 4 points 4 months ago

I’m fine with “my man” now :)

In 2021, I struggled with intense dysphoria which caused me to feel bad every time someone mentioned things like male parts, or gendered language.

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