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[-] andrewta@lemmy.world 11 points 5 months ago

Just my opinion, if my spouse (I'm not married) walks up to me and asks if they can sleep with someone else and I say no. Then they do it anyway. I would absolutely call that cheating. Then I'd call a divorce attorney. If I had to pay alimony after the divorce I'd be extremely bitter.

[-] jagged_circle@feddit.nl 3 points 5 months ago

Your partner is not your property. They have the right to fuck who they want.

They dont have the right to endanger your health, which is why they need to tell you

[-] Tedesche@lemmy.world 14 points 5 months ago

In the context of the comment chain, you’re saying that a person who willfully violates a monogamous marriage vow should still be able to claim alimony in the event of a divorce, simply because they informed their spouse they were doing it?

Fuck that. What the hell are you thinking? Please tell me this isn’t what you mean.

[-] jagged_circle@feddit.nl 2 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Marriages shouldn't be monogamous. Thats antiquated and ridiculous

Some people get married for tax benefits, and the law shouldn't say anything about whether or not the marriage is poly or mono. I mean, sure, let people opt into it if they want legally enforced monogamy, like a prenup. But by default marriage shouldn't require monogomy. Thats insane.

[-] Tedesche@lemmy.world 3 points 5 months ago

Wow. Way to give polygamists a bad name, dude. Can’t let the monogamists have their slice of happiness, huh?

Pathetic. I’m glad you’re in the extreme minority, what a horrendous opinion you have.

[-] jagged_circle@feddit.nl 3 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

I literally said its OK to be mono. Just that it shouldn't be required.

Also its polyamory, not polygamy

[-] JamesFire@lemmy.world 11 points 5 months ago

There is absolutely a difference between having an open relationship where both parties consent, and having a relationship where one person just sleeps around, but it's totally fine because the other was informed it was happening.

Your partner may not be your property, but that doesn't mean that sleeping around just because you told them it was happening is ok.

[-] jagged_circle@feddit.nl 1 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

If you dont consent to your poly partner fucking someone else, you're saying "your body, my choice"

Thats so fucked, and I can't believe you're defending it

[-] JamesFire@lemmy.world 3 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

If you dont consent to your poly partner fucking someone else

Whoa buddy, drop the assumptions. You're assuming your partner is poly. Among other things.

Thats so fucked, and I can’t believe you’re defending it

I can't believe you're defending cheating and then excusing it as "we're just poly" (Even though you absolutely did not make that clear to begin with, and are now changing the circumstances of your argument. Maybe list out any assumptions you're using?)

[-] jagged_circle@feddit.nl 1 points 5 months ago

I would never marry anyone who wasn't poly. The law is the one making assumptions here.

My point is that it shouldn't be possible for my spouse to persue criminal action against me for fucking someone else in a poly relationship if we're married. Thats fucked.

The law shouldn't make it not allowed to fuck someone outside your marriage by default. As I said before, thats cool to make it optional like a prenup, if you'd like, but it shouldn't be the default

[-] kofe@lemmy.world 3 points 5 months ago

If a poly person is with a monogamous person and wants to sleep with a new partner, end the relationship with the monogamous person. The monogamous person can stay out of the relationship if they know the other person is poly, too.

[-] jagged_circle@feddit.nl 1 points 5 months ago

Sure. I'm talking about a poly person in marriage with a poly person. They shouldn't be able to be criminalized for fucking someone else if they told their partner about it first.

[-] JamesFire@lemmy.world 1 points 5 months ago

I’m talking about a poly person in marriage with a poly person.

No you weren't. You're moving the goalposts.

[-] jagged_circle@feddit.nl 1 points 5 months ago

Nah, you made assumptions

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