First off, having been through IVF (unsuccessfully unfortunately) I wish you and your wife the best. I've found people who haven't gone through it tend to minimize the process and it can feel isolating and frustrating. If you want someone to chat about it - dm me on Mastodon (@pezhore@infosec.exchange).

Secondly, I wouldn't look as much at the bodily autonomy but more at the "life begins at inception" / fetal personhood stuff. That's the stuff that significantly impacts IVF and how non-viable eggs/zygotes are handled. Of course bodily autonomy is important for if the process works but complications occur after implantation.