Did you see what I put in paren at the bottom?

yeah, i just have problems with people drawing super wide and broad conclusions like this, even if they're generally true.

Also I strongly disagree with the statement that there is no connection between men wearing makeup and them being secure in their masculinity.

i think there's a correlation there, but i don't think it's directly linked. It's not an additive thing, insecurity in masculinity is a reductive thing. It removes aspects from someones life, that's why it's an insecurity.

The more accurate statement here is that men who are secure in their masculinity are more likely to wear makeup.

For me this comes from having lots of bad experiences with masculine presenting men and it takes me a long time to feel safe around a guy, but if they are more feminine presenting I feel much safer around them because all the feminine guys I know have never done anything to make me feel unsafe.

that makes sense, but i think this is probably a whole other topic of discussion, i was mostly just annoyed by the way it was worded lol.