It's a dynamic thing and an ongoing struggle frankly. The goal isn't perfection though, the goal is to not avoid confronting objective truths about these people once they are clear/valid. It's also about not allowing myself to conveniently forget when I want to. Pirate and direct support otherwise is a valid layer, but you can't pirate a trip to a theme park for example. So it's also about missing out on some things unfortunately. Not great, not perfect, but an effort I'll make.

Good to hear you reconsider and stay open to thinking about general approach.