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submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by marcie@lemmy.ml to c/transgender@lemmy.ml

If you have no preferred pronouns, just say (none) or something

This will help make people feel more comfortable in this comm and has a side effect of showing you support trans people when making comments in other communities. It will also make reactionaries seethe and make it easier for mods to purge them, and make trans people feel safer all over the fediverse.

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[-] socialpankakemix 21 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

what is the difference between putting (unsure) or (any) and just not having them? you would still basically have to ask or assume you picked the right one.

on a side note, making "requirements" to be trans is a slippery slope, and nobody should have to prove, or our themselves, just by existing and participating in the world.

and why should it matter if I know I'm interacting with a trans person? why can't we all just treat each other with respect, and if we want to find out more about each other individually we can just ask?

and while your solution of "just make another account" could work for some it simply won't work for all

[-] marcie@lemmy.ml 4 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

what is the difference between putting (unsure) or (any) and just not having them? you would still basically have to ask or assume you picked the right one.

the point is to affirm trans identities, by putting those in you are showing you support and affirm trans identities.

on a side note, making “requirements” to be trans is a slippery slope, and nobody should have to prove, or our themselves, just by existing and participating in the world.

showing pronouns is not a requirement to be trans, but it is a requirement going forward for this community in order to remove reactionaries. people will be asked to change their IDs. if they cant due to their instance, thats fine.

and why should it matter if I know I’m interacting with a trans person? why can’t we all just treat each other with respect, and if we want to find out more about each other individually we can just ask?

the rule explicitly states cis people should show pronouns as well. knowing if someone is trans online (and seeing many others) does have practical benefits in attracting more trans people to a space, though. but this isnt outing yourself as trans, just showing pronouns.

and while your solution of “just make another account” could work for since it simply won’t work for all

it certainly does work for all, it takes a couple of seconds

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