The trans community is very diverse and many subcultures develop within it. Blahaj memes are just sort of like a marker of one of those subcultures ("Reddit sapphic skirt goes spinny" vibes) which is not bad but doesn't come off as particularly general purpose (and maybe that's by design). That said, maybe we can work something out.

It's a nuanced and very "online trans discourse" topic basically. I'm afraid to even write this, lest it be interpreted as me "picking sides". But I would add it's just another iteration of the same stuff people have been arguing about in Usenet communities since the 90s.

I’m definitely checking it out! I do believe there’s probably a happy little bubble of people in there of the sort I personally tend to vibe with. But I’ve vibed with a lot of different types in the community over the past 20 years

The main thing it’s taught me is that when people strongly advertise as one particular type of trans they tend to be hostile toward other types of trans who they see as harming them.

Or other times they pleasantly surprise me and I observe other factions sling mud at them regardless & nobody gets anywhere lmao

I think Discord users will move wherever they need to in order to survive impending bans.

So I take your word for it sort of. The name itself of referencing blahaj will turn off a lot of transsex users and it’s a nuanced conversation I could write a book about. Transmedical is also clearly viewed as synonymous with gatekeeping as per someone camping the name.

Whatever a persons personal views on internal trans politics may be, the community is very diverse and there’s lots of infighting. For hosting medical information I think it needs to be a place where regardless of which faction people come from they’re not afraid of being banned unless they are explicitly harming others (not just disagreeing with them)

Maybe if I hang around longer and get to know them my concerns will be moot. I’m open to that and am fully willing to admit I showed up 2 days ago/am only going off vibes (but so will incoming users be going off vibes)

That’s why I edited my comment to advertise it at the top later (it’s me who posted the long ass Lemmy comment)

Though I would add I am still new to the fediverse and am not familiar with the owners of lemmy.blahaj.zone

I also think in the long run we need instances that are heavily vetted and defederated from the main instances. Growing from private Discord server alliances seems like a healthier option in the long run

So by your logic we should just roll over and allow them to run roughshod over our rights then while we debate every minute detail of our bodies and whether they affect competitiveness in silly games.

Got it. The general population has barely any attention capacity for this so let’s just keep playing on the conservatives terms then. Great effort.

For every conversation you have about hormone levels you could be raising awareness of far more pressing issues in our community and calling conservatives bluffs instead of falling for the red herring.

If that were true you would have replied by ignoring their red herring (women’s sports) and brought the attention back to the real issues—lack of access to medical care, criminalization of trans legal status, etc.

Instead you decided to debate them over nitpicky “biological advantage” arguments which just reinforces the myth in the minds of readers that the only thing we have to lose here are silly games for entertainment and fun. That’s exactly what they want and you fell for it.

Uh huh. As if this 1% of 1% are only ones of us who have lost our hobbies in the wake of having our life saving medical care revoked. So we should all make the conversation about them.

Do you have any idea how much losing access to HRT and surgeries disrupts a persons life and hobbies? How much a sex change in general does that? There isn’t a single one of us among us who hasn’t had their life knocked off course by a sex change it’s not that special.

Sports is a losing issue that sucks up all the air in the conversation and leaves the rest of us dehumanized. Conservatives know it that’s why they chose it.

Response to your edit: THEY HAVE ALREADY STOPPED DOING THAT AND YOU STILL THINK ITS ABOUT SPORTS. That’s the entire point. Stop fighting on their terms. Every time they try to make it about sports change the subject to what matters.

I wound up revising that part out on my second read. But for anyone reading this quote yes I did that in my OG post. And it’s true I just didn’t feel it flowed with the rest of what I wrote

You know what? As a woman who’s had a sex change, I am so tired. I could not give a shit about this mods opinions or any of this topic from anybody.

It’s quite simply a topic that loses us support for emotional gut vibe reasons that have nothing to do with rationality. And for what?

I’ve never played women’s sports. Nobody trans I’ve ever met plays women’s sports because we’re all fucking afraid of it and always have been.

We are less than 1% of the population and of that 1% maybe 1% is anywhere near ballsy enough to even begin to try in this environment let alone having the resources to try competing on top of much more pressing matters like surgeries and hormones.

Are these people ignorant and on the wrong side of history here? Absolutely.

Have transsex people been playing sports for decades without issue and without dominating even one out of hundreds of different sports? Absolutely.

Are they just making shit up about transsex bodies based off nothing but unchecked stereotypes and ignorance because they only ever notice the most visible and non-passing ones and have no idea how many of us are stealth? 1000% you betcha.

Could whatever nuanced future issues be resolved by simply introducing additional classes according to measurable biological traits like weight or shoulder span in the few cases where perhaps one day there will be reason to? Yepppp.

Is this whole conversation actually just misogynistic control over women’s bodies that will ultimately harm quantitatively more cis women than trans women? Yep!! And they are better poised to tackle that than us when it does.

And yet? I want everybody to shut up about it because we have far more pressing issues at hand. When it comes to women’s sports the public has made up their mind and the facts don’t matter.

We’re losing access to life saving medical care, being deplatformed, and criminalized for existing in public and y’all still think this is about pointless debates over sports. The public does not have much bandwidth in their minds to spare on us & it’s imperative we get off this topic.

If someone thinks I’m a “biological male” who shouldn’t play women’s sports I don’t frankly care. As long as they don’t interfere with us building robust community organizations to ensure everybody has means to survive the Nazis in coming years, it’s fine.

Frankly they can call me a biological male all day if they want to deliver some hormones to a girl who needs them. They’d still be stupid and wrong but at least useful then.

Serious talk. When are people going to start calling them DINOs. Democrats In Name Only from the Jurassic period.

You think Trump took over the RNC because the old guard liked him?? No he built on the backs of the tea party.

Bernie and the squad were the lefts tea party. What they need now is a charismatic leader to build on it and kick the DINOs out by force.

The DNC is not that powerful. We outnumber them. Stop forgetting we outnumber them.

I have no idea why none of you are mentioning libgen.