I understand the fear. It's hard to live with the knowledge that who you are might mean you're rejected by even the people you assumed would love you unconditionally.

But on the other hand, what's the value in being loved for the character you play? Wouldn't you prefer to know how they feel about who you actually are?

I saw from your other comment that you're dipping into presenting more like you feel, and that's great - there's no rush.

I'm two years into hormones and my life has been so much better for it, despite being reluctant and uncertain at first - only in the past year or so have I really been telling people. Cis people are spectacularly unobservant and you'd probably be able to hide that anything's changing for a while.

I would maybe suggest focusing less on labels, and more on what you actually want out of life substantively? You can associate more with women or things traditionally aligned with femininity if you want to, and regardless of gender identity.

But also, if as your post implies you want to be and for people to see you as more feminine - then I think you should consider taking steps to pursue that? In all likelihood, we only get one life - and it's too short to spend miserably living a lie longing for something else. There's no need to begrudgingly degender yourself if that's not something you actually want to do.

If physical changes are something that you actually want, less the social stigma - you can see about quietly beginning gender affirming care without publicly announcing any change to your identity. It's also not something that you have to stay the course on if it turns out not to be right for you. You might find that it slots some things into place though.

It's absolutely fascinating how the right-wing is such a vacuum of creative talent. I don't know that I've ever heard a right-wing musical project which didn't make me wince for lack of quality on an objective level.

I meant security less in the armed conflict sense, more in the less vulnerable to disruption sense. It does make sense to retain a food production sector, and a manufacturing sector for important goods like pharmaceuticals - because countries are likely to prioritise themselves in times of scarcity or crisis. I agree that interdependence is good for avoiding conflict.

It's so bleak watching entire demographics of people being more-or-less openly categorised as expendable. Alerts intended to spur action in response to an impending disaster should be available to as many people as possible.

Even a selection of generic translations with a time inserted would be better than this, and it's heartwrenching that they're not even willing to put that tiny amount of effort in.

I hate these people so much. Literally just leave us alone.

I do understand the allure of "we should make things again", and the security implications of maintaining a local manufacturing capacity and workforce - but I think people from advanced economies are incredibly myopic about what it actually looks like to develop that capacity back.

It'll be difficult for the US to compete on price with countries like China, which have a much better developed manufacturing sector and lower wages / cost of living, even with steep tariffs applied to inflate the prices of imported goods.

They'd probably have to subsidise production in the short-term, and invest heavily in capital to automate production to the greatest extent possible so as to avoid needing to ask Americans to accept lower living standards to stand a chance.

Oh, yeah, I mean the British press is institutionally compromised - there's hardly a major outlet of any orientation which hasn't been gunning for trans people on the regular over the last few years.

That they don't address their own bigotry either reflects their complete lack of self-awareness, or that they maliciously wish to conceal their intentions with it.

Honestly, we elsewhere should cut the US off to the fullest extent possible. Utterly cancerous society, and I don't want the American brand of stupid religion-infatuated bigotry creeping over here.

Maybe not overnight, but all friends begin as strangers.

The issue with the US isn't exactly Trump himself, it's that nearly half of American voters endorse him and that there's a line of vying inheritors for his brand of politics forming.

Trade, foreign, and domestic policy in the US can now be reasonably assumed to turn on a dime every few years, and that's exposure to risk that nobody wants to deal with.

Even within the four years, we're like three months in and the man is rapidly changing his mind on the fundamentals of international relationships. Whether he's manipulating markets, trying to force capitulation somehow, or something else is irrelevant - other countries are more stable and those relationships can provide what's needed.

Even setting aside that it's so unnecessarily huge, imagine having the utter contempt for others and self-importance necessary to park up on tram lines like that.

Genuinely so disturbing that people are cheering this on, both in general and in the context of these folks being just regular people.