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@NomedaBarbarian on Twitter:

Thinking about how I've been lied to as an #ADHD person about what habits are.

That apparently is not what neurotypical folks get to experience.

Habits are things that they do without thinking.

They don't have to decide to do them. They don't have to remember to do them. Things just happen, automatically, because they've done them enough for that system to engage and make them automatic.

That system...which I lack.

Every single time I have brushed my teeth, it's been an active choice. I've had to devote thought and attention to it. It's not a routine, it's not a habit, it's something that I know is good to do, and hopefully I can remember to do it.

Every single time I exercise, or floss, or pay my rent, or drink water, or say "bless you" when someone sneezes,

It's because I've had to actively and consciously engage the protocol.

It never gets easier.

Just more familiar.

It's part of my struggle with my weight--exercise never becomes a habit, and every single time I do it, it is exactly as hard as the first time. It takes exactly as much willpower & thought.

I got lied to about how it would just "turn into a habit". And blamed, when it didn't.

Drinking water isn't a habit. Feeding myself isn't a habit. Bathing isn't a habit.

I spend so much more energy, so much more time, so much more labor on just managing to maintain my fucking meat suit.

And now you want me to ALSO do taxes?

ON TIME?

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[-] michael@possumpat.io 4 points 1 year ago

Reading this post and the comments has made me question whether I am neurotypical or not. I was never diagnosed with any kind of neurodivergence, but autism is present in my family. Is it possible that I’ve picked up ways of thinking from them or is it likely that I have some of the same traits, if not enough to warrant a diagnosis?

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[-] feck_it@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 year ago

Nothing is a habit, eveything is an alarmed notification. This is the lifestyle i will lead to late future since can't afford therapy and ritalin anymore

[-] fidodo@lemm.ee 4 points 1 year ago

I don't think any body for example would brush their teeth completely sub consciously, but when it becomes a habit I'd say it becomes the default choice rather than something you need to remember to go out of your way to do.

[-] randfur@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

The reminder and decision to do it becomes automatic. The action is still manual but easily becomes autopilot once started.

[-] gapbetweenus@feddit.de 4 points 1 year ago

I don't think I have ADHD but that is the same with me.

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[-] KazuyaDarklight@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

I'm a little split on the implied "degree" of automation/lack of thought. But maybe "I" am the one that's split.

[-] solstice@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

Maintain your meat suit?! Get the fuck outta here. You think everyone doesn't need to remember oh yeah gotta brush my teeth, or forget now and then? And yeah taxes suck for everyone. Life is hard, who knew. Get over yourself.

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