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Have you met someone who interests you lately? (slrpnk.net)
submitted 1 month ago by beSyl@slrpnk.net to c/gaybros@lemmy.world
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GayBros, have you met someone who interests you lately?

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[-] beSyl@slrpnk.net 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Not me. I have been pretty dry lately. It is currently winter, and therefore, a little bit of seasonal depression, which leads to low libido. And also, I have just not met my type of guy. I do admit I am pretty picky. It is the one thing I hate the most about me. I would love to change that. I have no reasons to be picky but ya..

So ya, I have been dry.

Edit: I lie. I did meet an interesting guy though nothing happened.

[-] jol@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 1 month ago

How are you picky? It terms of appearance or personality? I quit dating apps because I noticed they make me a picky person in an unhealthy way. I connect a million times better with people IRL than on apps - both they find me more attractive, and them me.

[-] beSyl@slrpnk.net 1 points 1 month ago

I think it is both, personality and appearance wise. But I really cannot change that in me, I suppose. I cannot fabricate interest. I either am interested in the other person, or I am not. My brain chooses. I am just in for the ride.

I do agree that the apps fucking suck. And I also noticed that personally things are much better!

[-] jol@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 1 month ago

Yes. Sometimes I feel like I can no longer deeply connect with people, but now and then someone comes along and something really sparks. I do have a long term partner, so these are often passing relationships.

[-] beSyl@slrpnk.net 1 points 1 month ago

Is your relationship with your long term partner open? Or are you "cheating" on him?

[-] jol@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

We're open with some terms. We're not strictly monogamous in terms of sex. We don't date others, but twice it happened that we both got a crush on the same guy and that developed into a short lived poly relationship between.

[-] yoshisaur 1 points 1 month ago

I did but the dude turned out to be homophobic. He's one of my coworkers and of course he's super cute. Just my luck. My last shift was awful because we were assigned to the same thing for hours and he just kept going on and on about how being gay is "wrong"

[-] beSyl@slrpnk.net 1 points 1 month ago

Oh man... I am so sorry...

Are you planning on coming out to him?

[-] yoshisaur 1 points 1 month ago

I was until I found out he was homophobic. I'm on my shift with him right now and man it's been so hard to talk to him. Before I found out he was homophobic, I would try to hangout with him as much as possible, and it probably looked super obvious to my coworkers because I couldn't shut up about him and was always looking for him.

[-] beSyl@slrpnk.net 1 points 1 month ago

Is there any chance that it is a shitty defense mechanism? Perhaps your country is not welcoming to lgtbq and he is signaling that?

Or maybe he is just stupid. Be careful.

But ya, I have been there. It sucks. I once was befriending someone who used a derogatory word and I just never had it in me to talk to him again.

Remember that there will be others. Your perfect guy is still somewhere!

[-] yoshisaur 1 points 1 month ago

Well yeah actually. I live in Oklahoma, which is pretty bad for LGBTQ so maybe that's it? It's so hard when every crush you've ever had has been on a straight dude, and they've all been homophobic too. I have met 1 gay dude in my entire life, but he is awful. He's not my type (which is fine, and isn't the reason I hate him). The reason I hate him is because he is a proud member of gays for trump. Like seriously?? That's like Jews for Hitler. Just my luck I suppose. What's even worse is that everytime i find out that my crush is straight, for some reason I want him even more. So last night I couldn't help myself but talk to him even more. And I couldn't help but stare at him even more too. But like, when this guy's got the most beautiful butt I've ever seen and really nice muscles (especially the chest hoooooooly shit), can you really blame me? Sorry I kinda used this to vent but i find it really sad that the only gay person I've met (at lease who I know is 100% gay) has so much internalized homophobia that he is willing to support the guy trying to kill us

[-] beSyl@slrpnk.net 1 points 1 month ago

Hahah. Regarding his hotness, I know exactly what you mean. I also had a crush on a guy who was extremely hot. I didn't really like him as a person, but his body.. I cut contact with him and it was one of the best things I did.. At first, it sucked, but then I felt so much freeer.

I know you cannot cut contact with yours like that, but you should figure something out. Meet new, better, people.

Is this guy also MAGA, pro trump?

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