Not judging…but have you talked to your doctor about your newfound promiscuity?
A sudden change of a core behavior like this is concerning unless you’re like currently going through puberty. In which case it’s concerning for an entirely separate set of circumstances.
OP probably is on a manic bipolar episode. :P
But yeah, a good GP can also answer sex safety questions.
Maybe so, but sudden changes in behavior can be a very concerning symptom. Op seemed pretty blasé about it, but still well aware of the basics and that they need to exercise more caution…as if they were a virgin (or close to it) and recently became so promiscuous.
If that’s the case, then that’s a pretty drastic personality shift. Even if they are diagnosed bipolar, their mania manifesting an insatiable sexual appetite sounds like a concerning new symptom.
Agreed! Your doctor can also help set up regular testing for you and tell you what to look out for and everything.
A therapist may be a good idea, too, for the same reasons you mentioned.
I appreciate you amending your post to strike through the slurs and problematic language - but maybe just remove the old words entirely and leave an edit at the bottom mentioning you removed problematic language? For many transgender folk it can be quite distressing seeing the word used
As for advice for this kind of thing, as other people mentioned there's a lot of advice if you just search for it. Shrimpteeth is a wonderful resource, they have an Instagram account with a lot of free resources too.
I don't know how it looks on Lemmy, but on Kbin the words aren't struck through. OP, you definitely want to remove them.
Huh, maybe it's beehaw doing some awesome work to make the experience nicer
Unpopular take, but reddit r/BDSMadvice probably has a ton of information on this built up over the years
I might be wrong and hopefully someone can point you to a good educational resource such as what you are looking for.
All I can say is, because of the close contact and fluid transfers ( saliva, urine, feces, touching another person etc) you don't just need to be wary of STDs, but of most contagious diseases and bacteria, which are way too many to list. Especially if you engage in scat/piss and are in contact with other people's blood.
Sure, this applies to anyone really, even people with a single partner. My point is, the more lottery tickets you buy, the more chances to win the lottery.
Having a relationship with few people you know relatively well decreases your risk of transmission not just by numbers, but because they will be more likely to disclose if they have something if they know it. Random hookups may not be this considerate always. I'd be really curious to see material addressing contagious diseases and prevention specifically for promiscuous people, I wonder how it would differ from information addressed to a general audience.
100%
But each practice involves different levels of risk. Kissing random strangers has a different level of risk from having anal sex with them, and a different level of risk from having oral sex, piss play, etc. Some stuff seems obvious, other stuff isn't as intuitive. And for people who engage in risk behavior, knowing how risky it is makes all the difference in the world. Knowing that having anal sex with an escorts is way riskier than having vaginal sex with her makes all the difference in the world.
Absolutely but wouldn't that be already covered in regular sex ed topics? I don't see much of a difference in education requirements for promiscuous people vs not so promiscuous ones, other than keeping in mind the lottery analogy.
Edit: I'm not trying be dense here, I think it's a bit confusing to ask for sex ed for promiscuous people when what you are looking for instead is just sex ed for a wide variety of niche practices.
Maybe not 100% what you're looking for, but Pornhub has sex ed videos and a sex wellness center. For fetishplay, you probably need to ask the communities for resources.
It's been a long time since I've looked into their stuff, so this might be dated advice, but there's also sex educators like Dr. Ruth Westheimer and Dan Savage.
You might get better answers from FetLife, basically social media for "kinksters".
I don't think there is any "government approved" educational material about the kind of activities you partake in. Look up something like "advanced bdsm guide" on Google and absorb as much information as possible. This kind of information is shared from experience only.
Lol, I'm the exact opposite of you - never had sex even once. So what's your secret? Don't tell me you're attractive?
I'm the least attractive guy you'll ever meet, I have zero self confidence, big social anxiety, and mild ASD. I have the personality of a disgruntled cat. Somehow even I have managed to not only have sexual partners, but also now I'm married and have two kids. This is not meant to be bragging at you, putting you down or rubbing it in. I am saying don't dispair, it can happen, and it does happen, and there is no secret, it's got nothing to do with being attractive.
You're never as ugly as you think you are. Don't be so hard on yourself.
Well, my mum says I'm handsome, does that count?
You don't have to be that attractive. While attraction does matter and does help, personality plays a huge, huge role. I'm bi and find most people to be physically attractive in their own way, but only a small minority of people have attractive personalities.
You may also want to check the sexual-asexual realm of possibilities. Watching sex, wanting to have sex, pursuing the act of sex and actually having it are very different things that may or may not be your cup of tea.
There a ton of different ways to get laid. And depending on what your looking for, there are different requirements.
Most commonly people who don't get laid are looking for some level of intimacy with someone that actually finds them attractive. Which means that hookers are not an option.
Commonly people in this category have two issues (I'm probably projecting :P, but I don't have much to work on):
Standards too high. Just like poor people try to become billionaires. Sexless people wish for a harem of super models. Practice flirting with less attractive women until you learn to connect with women on a deeper level which will make lowering your standards to reasonable levels easier.
You're unattractive. A bit similarly to #1, influencers and your own expectations for a partner are warping your perception of how attractive you need to be. Seeing as the level of attractiveness you wish you had is completely unattainable, you give up or you look for ineffective shortcuts.
Don't worry so much, work on the basics: good hygiene, not terrible clothes, some level of social competence, a minimal amount of confidence. The minimum requirements are far lower than what you'd expect or what most people would think.
(Note being financially stable also helps in terms of minimum requirements for attractiveness, but it's not like you need the incentive of getting laid to want to be financially stable).
Keep working on both #1 and #2 and eventually they meet and you get laid and have a good time!
I honestly think it has a lot more to do with projected confidence (not to be confused with arrogance) than any amount of attractiveness or financial stability.
Like, it's easier to get someone else to want to be with you, if they see that you're confident and comfortable with yourself first.
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