I would say I am hetero.
If they reflect the sex they are claiming to be? Sure. I am not planning on making kids. So no way of getting pregnant either.
Rather would adopt anyway.
Edit: This assumes I like their personality in the first place.
And it would maybe only in tge first couple weeks be novel and unusual/weird to me. Then it's just business as usual.
This makes sense - by "reflect the sex they are claiming to be" do you just mean they are suitably feminine and appear to be a woman?
This is a fairly reasonable take, or at least I completely understand why someone who is a straight man would not want to date someone who appears male, for example.
I guess one question I have is whether a female penis would be a problem for you as a straight man? Separately is having a vagina an important requirement for you to date a trans woman (you might be happy with a female penis, but still want penetration with a vagina, which is why I see these as two separate questions).
That depends - am I only physically attracted to them? The answer is no, whether or not they’re trans. Am I also attracted to their personality? Then yes, whether or not they’re trans.
It helps that I’m bi.
No. Starting any relationship with a lie or withholding the truth is not kosher to me. Now, knowing form the start, an attractive lady is an attractive lady. Let's have that discussion. But I am also biologicaly a male and I quite enjoy the female form and all associated enjoyment with such. I do not find androgynous or males attractive at all, just not wired that way.
If there's an expectation of sex we'd have to figure out if we're compatible in that way.
Me finding them attractive is already a good indication they're trans, so...
haha, there is a solid number of Lemmy users here that are like this 😄
what do you think you find attractive about trans people - and do you think cis-passing trans people are less attractive to you?
Yes. Penis or vagina matters little to me.
interesting but not surprising to see the focus on gentials - after all the biggest problem (and for some, the biggest perk) has to do with the genital mismatch
It's hard because not all trans people fit a single "type" - some of us get support as children and avoid going through the wrong puberty and live pretty much as cis people (though that doesn't guarantee access to SRS).
I can't remember exactly so take this with a grain of salt, but over half of trans people want SRS but only around 12% actually have had SRS. So statistically it's probably true a given trans person is pre-op.
Anyway, for me dating a trans person comes with a lot more than just gential configuration, it involves their daily experiences of dysphoria, discrimination, the sensitivities about how they want to be touched or not touched, how their voice sounds, their mix of socialized gendered traits, etc.
Absolutely, there’s a lot more to it than just the genitals, but to be fair, everyone has a large number of differences from the mean- I’ve met bio women with very deep voices, with unflattering figures, who’ve experienced misogyny, etc.
Apart from the genitals, everything a trans person had that might differentiate them from a cis person can still be present in a cis person.
I tend to agree, many facets of trans experience are found in cis people. It is not acknowledged how much gender diversity exists in cis populations. Many victims of trans moral panic are cis, often cis women of color are the ones targeted in bathrooms for being mistaken as trans.
I guess with trans people there are some aspects like transition experience that won't exist in cis populations- but I love your point, thank you for that. 💞
If I found out someone was cis whom I'd otherwise consider dating, it would probably be difficult to maintain interest.
Likely not. I'm a cis straight man who tends to be into women who aren't into men, so while particularly feminine women aren’t my thing, the parts matter to me in terms of dating/having sex. Fully post-op and passing would certainly consider, but I know that's not always the goal for trans folks.
As long as they have the matching equipment then I'm totally fine with it.
I've always wanted to try out dating an mtf girl
Ew. We're not something for you to "try out".
The entire concept of dating is trying someone out
Yeah. Half the people I’ve dated are trans.
Been there, done that. It was great, but didn't last for other reasons. I'm now cis married with kids and don't regret a thing.
Sure.
I find like 99% of people unattractive, though, cis and trans alike.
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