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[-] EponymousBosh@awful.systems 18 points 15 hours ago

"Should you" as in "is it morally/ethically wrong?" No, it's not. "Should you" as in "is it a good idea?" No, it's a terrible idea. And I think you know that on some level.

[-] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 5 points 12 hours ago

I don't believe in the idea of "thought crimes" so morally you haven't done anything wrong. But its probably unhealthy to do that.

[-] neidu3@sh.itjust.works 12 points 16 hours ago

No, nothing helpful will come from nurturing that fantasy.

A relevant proverb I heard somewhere on a similar topic: You can't prevent a bird from flying over year head. But you absolutely can prevent it from building a nest in your hair.

[-] JoeKrogan@lemmy.world 59 points 22 hours ago

No, it is not healthy and will go nowhere or could turn into an obsession in the worst case scenario. It is better to move on and find someone who is interested

[-] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 14 points 21 hours ago
[-] MisterNeon@lemmy.world 39 points 21 hours ago

Don't do that to yourself. You need to move on.

[-] 9point6@lemmy.world 29 points 20 hours ago

No, once you know it's not going to happen you need to do what you can to let the idea go.

Holding into it is just tying an anchor to your happiness that will only get heavier.

[-] SaltSong@startrek.website 37 points 22 hours ago

As a pure act, I can't see that it causes any harm.

However, it will very likely lead to frustration, anger, and poor treatment of the person in question. Those things are bad.

[-] Red_October@lemmy.world 14 points 18 hours ago

In what reality would that be a healthy thing to do?

No. I know it hurts, but you need to let go.

[-] Kennystillalive@feddit.org 21 points 21 hours ago

No, it will just hurt you in the end.

[-] pennomi@lemmy.world 15 points 21 hours ago

As always, the dose makes the poison. An occasional fantasy won’t harm you, but an obsession is unhealthy and will make your life hell.

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