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"No screens in the bedroom, ever."

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[-] 93maddie94@literature.cafe 24 points 10 hours ago

My kid is 3 but this has been a big issue on my mind lately. I’ve read The Anxious Generation, The Screentime Solution, and The Art of Screentime over the past 9 months (with some other tech-adjacent books). My husband has also recently had a turn-around on tech for kids. I think our big thing is no personal devices for the little one for a long time. Family computer in a common area. Family cellphone that can be used when she’s not with us. Family tv in the living room. Family iPad that is used for specific tasks.

[-] puppinstuff@lemmy.ca 12 points 9 hours ago

I think this is where my family is landing.

[-] sundray@lemmus.org 10 points 14 hours ago

"Phone goes in the locker before bed, Johnny."

[-] Sxan@piefed.zip 16 points 11 hours ago

"Johnny goes into the locker before bed, Phone."

[-] Gsus4@programming.dev 26 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago)

Beats whatever cumbersome recipe governments worldwide are trying to do to "keep kids safe"^TM^

[-] beejjorgensen@lemmy.sdf.org 9 points 16 hours ago

If I wanted to raise superhumans, I'd simply not give them smartphones until they turned 18.

[-] rikudou@lemmings.world 4 points 3 hours ago

Boomers haven't had them for quite a bit longer. Wouldn't say it helped much.

[-] Fredthefishlord 3 points 1 hour ago

Boomers got lead instead.

[-] surewhynotlem@lemmy.world 4 points 7 hours ago

I used to sneak beers as a teen. Your kids will be sneaking Internet.

[-] themoonisacheese@sh.itjust.works 29 points 15 hours ago

If you wanted to socially stunt them maybe. Please never do this.

[-] Ek-Hou-Van-Braai@piefed.social 18 points 11 hours ago

I know kids who's parents kept them away from computers growing up, where as I was allowed to play with computers and broke several by the age of 10.

Now I'm good with computers and have made a good career out of it, those kids who weren't allowed around computers aren't very computer literate, their parents definitely did them a big disservice.

Teach your kids a healthy ballance with new technology, but don't withhold it especially when their peers are all using it.

[-] memfree@piefed.social 17 points 15 hours ago

As an old fart who witnessed social gatherings for decades, it looks like social stunting comes from smartphones rather than their absence.

[-] webghost0101@sopuli.xyz 22 points 14 hours ago

This is correct from your perspective only.

Young people are still social but they do it differently, if you are no not online you wouldn’t know their is a social gathering nor would you be invited. Not from malace but because all information about any event only exists online.

The person you consider your best friend needs someone to talk to. All their friends are available but not you. You become hard to bond with because your not where everyone else is in digital space.

Many events even require smartphone, even boring restaurants sometimes do with a QR code to see the menu/order.

I hate that kind of stuff but since a few years it has become clear that not having a smartphone is basically a social disability.

[-] memfree@piefed.social 5 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

I understand that it is harder to bond to someone who isn't immediately digitally available. I understand that "kids these days! " do their social stuff online, but at the same time, they seem to have largely lost all skill at interacting with real humans of slight or no aquaintence.

It is easy to make sarcastic comments on your phone about how stupid this or that is. The sterotypical basement dweller can snark all day. What takes social skill is actively engaging with people you don't care about and finding common ground.

Yes, digital people track some of this on facebook and such, but in real life: in which community groups do they participate? Do they know what their neighbors do and what they like beyond snapshots of events? That is: yeah, they saw that pic of that cookout, but did they know that he volunteer teaches English as a second language Tuesday and Thursday at the library? When was the last time they went into a neighbor's home (or had one visit theirs) to share a cup of coffee and complain about that road that needs fixing and who to push about it?

Edited to replace 'you' with 'they' so there'd be no confusion that I mean multiple 'you' readers rather than a single person.

[-] scintilla@crust.piefed.social 12 points 13 hours ago

Do you realize how hostile the outside is to non-adults? Like genuinely I've seen people call the cops because there was a kid riding a bike unsuprivized in a suburban neighborhood. Malls are dying and there's nothing to replace them as a meeting spot.

This isn't even getting into the seeming requirement to spend what feels like 100$ to see a movie now or any of the other stereotypical hang outs. Or how many people have parents that simply do not have time to drive them places.

I'm genuinely interested in your response because I genuinely think the world has become actively hostile to kids being kids.

[-] memfree@piefed.social 4 points 12 hours ago

First bit: Why do we as a country (speaking from the U.S.) allow police to assualt the citizenry? Why aren't we all in our town halls demanding the removal of any cops who handcuff kids, tackle people who don't speak English, or fire guns at anyone who isn't at that moment attacking someone? The police should be under our control by our consent. We elect their bosses if not the sheriffs themselves. Why aren't we showing up in numbers in person to demand better?

Second bit: I know there are still some communities where kids can ride their bikes without fear because the parents still know everyone on the block. They might not like all the neighbors, but they know them and aren't calling the cops on them. The bad part of that is a distrust of outsiders and unwillingness to accept anything different. Humans fall into us/them thinking too easily. As far as I have heard/read/seen, the best way to mitigate that is first-hand exposure to the 'other' because people tend to be better than whatever sterotype someone worries about. Reminiscing here: I remember visiting my grandparents and having them walk me into various houses on the block to chat with neighbors. It never occurred to me as a bored child that this was socially incorporating me into an insular community that might have been sucpsious of a strange kid biking around the same streets over and over if they didn't know I belonged there.

That said, I don't understand how the kids like me who grew up running wild wherever we wanted became parents who didn't allow any roaming, and who's kids then became adults that will call the cops before asking the neighbors. Maybe we move too often. Maybe we fear litigation. Mostly, I suspect, we work too many hours for not enough money such that adults don't have the energy to form old-style communities where people banded together (both for good and bad), and instead everyone only bitches online just as I am doing right now.

[-] DFX4509B_2@lemmy.org 1 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago)

You still have local second-run theaters where those still exist, plus parks and playgrounds where those haven't been ruined yet, and depending on where you live, there may even be various art/craft places to hang out at, splatter-painting places included in that, and some of the nicer parts of the country even have interactive museums that are kid-friendly (as in actually interactive, like the patrons can actually interact and play with the exhibits there).

Aside from those, yeah, there isn't much for kids to do. sarcasm, but also not really if you're in a *really* low-income part of the country where there really *isn't* anything to do, think of places like Appalachia for a good example of that extreme

[-] scintilla@crust.piefed.social 4 points 11 hours ago

You're still ignoring the core problem in that children can't do any of those things by themselves anymore and all of them cost some amount of money with the exception of playgrounds and parks. Growing up the closest one to me was about a 30 minute drive so I would never be able to get myself there.

[-] webghost0101@sopuli.xyz 4 points 12 hours ago

So all you have to do is for everyone to move to a better neighbourhood, problem solved.

Sarcasm aside, in my neighbourhood there where some attempts to get together. Then people started complaining about eachother. Now at most a neighbour may wave back when i wave at them.

[-] DFX4509B_2@lemmy.org 1 points 12 hours ago

That's screwed, and most of the places I mentioned, are generally in cities/towns that are pretty well off, as I mentioned in that 'sarcasm, but not really' disclaimer, places like Appalachia are truly screwed in that regard, and also your situation.

[-] sexy_peach@feddit.org 1 points 10 hours ago

You'll need to use a smartphone for most jobs nowadays, even just random dude in a supermarket.

[-] bitofarambler@crazypeople.online 10 points 18 hours ago
this post was submitted on 13 Aug 2025
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