For those at work the news article is here.

This is a really sad case. Men like this target their victims carefully and often go for vulnerable people. It can be a grooming process, and they slowly build a cage round her so she can't get out. Her and her baby deserved better.

I think you make a really good point about men often not changing. Abusive men tend to be totally selfish and don't accept they're wrong, making them resistant to change. Dysfunctional men often just don't do the work they need to do to function well. Many men just ignore the issue and hope it goes away.

Patriarchy really damages men. Showing emotion and getting MH support is seen as weakness. Abusive men have unrealistic expectations so are never truly happy. It destroys so much.