How do you deal with the situation of being more angry than you've every been? (programming.dev)

submitted 9 months ago by 0101100101@programming.dev to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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Lost the house of my dreams today. Before putting an offer down, I call up some conveyancers to get quotes for work done and one of them instead views and puts an offer down.

Super angry. Had been researching it for about three weeks asking questions and wanting a second viewing. The agency didn't even respond to my first email asking questions for about ten days because apparently it was in their spam box.

I kinda want to go to the agency and flip the tables (not literally, I'm a skinny shit) and for this conveyancer to do it is probably a conflict of interest.

So yeah, really annoyed and have been stewing all day. How do you deal with such situations?

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[-] jabathekek@sopuli.xyz 18 points 9 months ago

Don't take that shit. Stay mad. Take any necessary legal action required. Failing that, "be the light you want to see in the world"

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___and by "light" I mean molotov cocktail.

[-] Catoblepas 17 points 9 months ago

I don’t know if that actually violates any ethics, but it feels like it should, so I’d deal with it by writing a polite letter to whatever relevant licensing body that made it clear how upset I was to get rug pulled by someone I thought was a professional. Even if they toss it you’ll feel better for having written it.

[-] 0101100101@programming.dev 13 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Even if they toss it you’ll feel better for having written it.

Unfortunately, the property market is heating up now for spring, so I need to spend my time wisely. I think I'm just going to can all the listed properties of this estate agency. It's their fault that I couldn't have made an offer earlier because they refused to show me the basement because "they never had the key for it" - a common excuse from dodgy agencies - and with there being no photos of the basement it sounds fishy. I know it leaks, it's a 100yo property and neighbours have told me theirs does, but I think the agency wanted me to put an offer down without seeing it. When I specifically asked questions about it, they went unanswered, so I'm thinking maybe cracks.

Strange, huh!

[-] wirelesswire@lemmy.zip 9 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Infuriating that you had that house sniped by someone you should've trusted, but if the agency was jerking you around like that, it was probably for the better. House hunting is a frustrating experience even in a good market, so expect more shit like this to happen. I would contact the agency and inform them that you'll be taking your business elsewhere and why, and leave it at that. Speak with a manager or owner if you can.

[-] LambeauLeap@sopuli.xyz 12 points 9 months ago

Remember how lucky you are to be in a position where you can think about buying a house in the first place

[-] AmidFuror@fedia.io 5 points 9 months ago

Coming from a guy lucky enough to have access to technology to send this comment.

[-] LambeauLeap@sopuli.xyz 1 points 9 months ago

Lol ok

[-] AmidFuror@fedia.io 1 points 9 months ago

You mock me, but they kick me out of the public library by 5pm.

[-] MajorHavoc@programming.dev 2 points 9 months ago

I stop and take some me time.

[-] MedicPigBabySaver@lemmy.world 2 points 9 months ago

Alcohol and discuss protest options with my great group of life long friends.

I have a core group of childhood friends, 40-50 years. We're trying to arrange our first group protest event!

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