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We spend our days bound by endless obligations. Yet, even with loneliness, failed relationships, and soul-draining work, people still manage to catch a glimpse of happiness. Why?

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[-] lordkekz@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

There is no inherent goal or point in life. You get to decide. You get to give your life meaning.

It can be hard. Sometimes, material conditions like poverty, working conditions or social pressure make it hard to find meaning. Sometimes, you can loose the meaning, like when you loose a loved one. A good society should help empower all people to give themselves meaning. Sadly this is not the direction many countries are taking nowadays.

But despite everything: You are ultimately empowered to create meaning for yourself. Nobody can truly take that away from you.

[-] yogthos@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 month ago

Why does there need to be a point to it all. We exist, and we can set our own goals and create our own purpose in life. That's what self determination is. Personally, I find happiness in doing things that I find meaningful or interesting.

[-] Diddlydee@feddit.uk 2 points 1 month ago

There is no purpose but to be alive, or rather, you make your own purpose.

[-] ColdWater@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 month ago

Existential crisis moment:

[-] rainrain@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 month ago

I'm pretty confident that there's an afterlife.

I speak from my own research into related phenomena.

The afterlife is basically the dreamworld but moreso.

[-] MyRobotShitsBolts@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago

what was it like before you were born? That's what it's like after you die.

[-] daytonah@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 month ago

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oVbKHNNWOUg

Give it a try of you really want to know...

[-] HawlSera@lemm.ee 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

The chances that there this nothing waiting for us after death are laughably slim, especially as we make more discoveries about death and quantum phenomenon

Read into NDEs

[-] Aggravationstation@feddit.uk 2 points 1 month ago

Because the alternative would be having no happiness at all.

[-] Tartas1995@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 1 month ago

How does something afterwards change the meaning of this in a good way?

Why fight for justice? E.g. the bible says god will judge and that i shouldn't. So if I just don't care about anything here but about god, I might have a bad time now but eternal happiness later. How meaningless is now this here? Everything is transactional. The love that you gave is for the sake of getting some much much more valuable later.

Why do people find happiness even in the worst situations? Because it is the only way to deal with it. We are made for survival and survival requires the willingness to survive. It doesn't matter if you are the strongest fighter, if you don't even want to fight back. Your desires come from survival needs.

And a little extra bit, there might not be a point in living. It might be meaning less. But I personally want to be happy. I just do. So everyday I work towards being happy. As I personally love my family and friends, I wish them to be happy. I just do. As my friends have family and friends, and their happiness is somewhat linked to their family and friends happiness, I want all of them to be happy too. And so on. As I can relate to the joy of being proud of oneself, I want them to feel that joy. And so on. None of this is objectively meaningful, I just like it that way. And I might be an asshole but I don't care if you agree with me, I want you feeling happy and fulfilled. Deal with it.

[-] mr_jaaay@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 month ago

Well put, and I think it's definitely meaningful.

[-] butsbutts@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 month ago
[-] obinice@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago

There is no point, we don't exist for a reason, we're just a thing that happened in the universe by random chance.

That's not an inherently bad thing though, heck, the concept of "bad" isn't even "real", it's just an invention we came up with.

But I digress. We must find out own purpose and meaning in life, it won't be handed to us. Think of the journey as a fun ride with no rules, there are no gods, the universe doesn't judge you, you are unique and weird and amazing and can interact with the universe in ways no gigantic star or powerful black hole ever could.

[-] CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

people still manage to catch a glimpse of happiness. Why?

Why not? Happiness comes from what happens while we're still alive. It's ""just"" a question of finding it.

[-] sentient_loom@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 month ago

A) There is no point.

B) The point is whatever you want, whatever you value.

C) Somebody keeps living after you, so "the point" is to pass things forward because "something" happens, to somebody else after you die. We inherit everything from our ancestors.

D) How should I know?

[-] Horsey@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago

To enjoy the chemical pleasures that life has to offer, in its fullest.

[-] Sam_Bass@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 month ago

Everything happens after you die. Who told you nothing does?

[-] NONE_dc@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago

I simply believe that it's not the destination what matters, but the journey and what you do in it.

I just got a haircut, ate an ice cream while listening to Lady Gaga, had a nice soup for lunch and tomorrow I take the day off after a long and stressful work week. My meaning is in those details.

[-] liberatedGuy@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)
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[-] CapriciousDay@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 month ago

We're just smelly sacks of biology like a rat or a lizard who happen to have developed higher reasoning capacity for whatever reason.

[-] 3dmvr@lemm.ee 1 points 1 month ago

Ngl this type of post on reddit used to make me depresssed as a kid and id make them too, dont want to see them, theres no point in thinking about this thats why ppl either dont or spend all their time religious

[-] jimmy90@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago

if one's life was just loneliness, failed relationships, and soul-draining work it might appear pointless

maybe there is lots of other things to do?

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[-] Hyggyldy 1 points 1 month ago

Thinking there's something after death seems to make people lose sight of this world and fail to see the beauty in it, IMO. When I hear religious people ask this question I think their god(s) must feel insulted. Doesn't really answer your full question but that's my thoughts.

[-] ocean@lemmy.selfhostcat.com 1 points 1 month ago

If that’s the case, a Buddhist would have nothing to worry about! And a Christian would be in shambles I guess.

[-] Mechanismatic@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 month ago
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