submitted 3 months ago by turnerpike20@lemmy.ml to c/advice@lemmy.ml

3 comments fedilink hide all child comments

I'm 24 and about to be 25 I'm constantly feeling like having a panic attack even fast heart beats. I know death can come at any moment and it's just that fact alone that someone can just kill you. It's the fact I don't go anywhere that kept me alive. I hope to be alive from an older age but I haven't done anything useful which I'm sad about death. I'm sad I smoke as well I'm sad that this means I've mostly killed myself. You know what actually does happen? If death is just like sleep that might be peaceful but there's not really another chance at living. If it's something then it's like I might see people I don't like I miss people in some way but not being able to see them again because they committed suicide or some other stuff. I don't get it anymore actually and just kind of wait which I hate.

top 3 comments

sorted by: hot top controversial new old

[-] Okokimup@lemmy.world 4 points 3 months ago

Smoking doesn't mean you've mostly killed yourself. You can quit and regain your health.

If you like to read, I recommend The Five Invitations by Frank Ostaseski. It's a look at facing your own death from a Buddhist perspective. Also When Breath Becomes Air by Paul Kalanathi, a man who knew he was dying when he wrote the book. I have found that learning how to face your mortality instead of ignoring it is much more comforting.

As for an afterlife, there is zero reason to worry about that because we have zero information about what it would be, if there even is one. I live my life the best I can and trust that if there is something after, I can react to it then.

[-] Pronell@lemmy.world 2 points 3 months ago

Inevitable things are easier for me to let go.

I will eventually die. But since it isn't now, I have time to fill with stuff that interests me.

In the meantime I still do plenty of staring into that void, but it's tempered by liking the life I have and accepting that it's temporary.

It's worth adding, however, that my anxiety has been more something like Heaven.

I don't want to exist forever. That's horrifying! I want this to end at some point. I'm not in a hurry, but it can't just keep going.

[-] Majestic@lemmy.ml 2 points 3 months ago

You're only 24? You haven't done that much damage with smoking. There are people who quit later than you who are fine. Just don't put it off as something you'll do eventually. Make it this year, set a goal and smash it and you'll feel better because you'll have beaten something, you'll have won. If you're convinced time will kill you young there's no reason to aid it is my opinion. You don't have to become a health freak and maximize that but try and take healthy steps, things like quitting smoking benefit a lot of vital systems.

this post was submitted on 24 Jul 2024

6 points (100.0% liked)

Advice

70 readers

9 users here now

This is a community where you can ask for Advice on anything as we all need some Advice on something every now and again

Community Rules:

Be Nice. We do not tolerate trolling, harassment, threats, hate-speech, discrimination, rudeness, or other uncivil actions. If you see someone being mean, please report them and move on! No need to feed the trolls. Do not use this sub to advocate violence.
Posts must ask for advice. No posts offering general unsolicited advice. No advertising, proselytizing or self promotion allowed in posts or comments. No general "am I ugly" posts.
Avoid topics requiring specific expertise.
Follow the rules of Lemmy. Do not post personal information! Always blur out ALL names, usernames, emails, phone numbers, etc. when posting. Do not harass, bully, or threaten other users in the comments. Report such behaviour to the moderators. Throwaway accounts are allowed.
No discrimination. No racism. No sexism. No discrimination against a group of persons based on their birth, beliefs, identity, or other categorizations not listed. Do not advertise or promote, terrorism, extremist, or supremacist groups.
Give OP the benefit of the doubt. This community is for advice only, not for judgment, scrutiny, or disbelief. If you believe OP is lying or trolling, report the thread and move on. In threads related to sexual assault or rape, do not assume OP is lying as it is impossible for you to know the real story. Act as if OP is telling the truth. Victim-blaming will not be tolerated. Victim-shaming will not be tolerated.
Only post twice per day. To reduce the effect of spammers and trolls, you are limited to two posts per day.
We are NOT professionals we are just random internet strangers trying to help people if you need real help please get help from a professional.

founded 3 years ago