TL;DR, Big anxiety when job hunting, advice? (lemmy.world)

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Hey everyone,
I [28F] need some advice on handling anxiety when job hunting.

Almost a week ago I finished school and I'm once again without work. I've been job hunting about 40-50% of my adult life and it has taken a huge toll on my mental health to the point where I'm barely able to apply for jobs anymore. I have gotten a few warnings over the years due to not applying to enough jobs. ( I live in Sweden btw )

I have tried taking breaks.
I have tried waiting for the anxiety to pass.
I have asked so many for advice but it's like they all give the same default answer. If their advice where enough, I would be a pro at job hunting.

I did get an autism diagnosis a few years back and I do feel better about myself, more confident and understanding of how I work so I think this time around will be different, but it's like the old anxiety still hangs around and I don't know how to get rid of it.

Please if you have any advice, I'd love to hear it.

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[-] fodderoh@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago

they all give the same default answer

Which is?

Knowing what you've been told before will help to make sure we don't just give you the same advice you've already gotten

Regardless, have you considered finding a therapist? A professional may be more effective at helping you to work through this anxiety.

[-] CoffeeTails@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago

The default answer is shallow-ish answers on how to write a CV or personal letter or how to act during an interview. Even when I ask for more details they just repeat the same stuff.
It's like googling "how to write a cv" or "how to act at an interview".
I've been following their advice and working really hard but still only get summer jobs for a few months. They tell me how good my applications are and that I'm brilliant and kind and that I'm going to do soooo well. So why is it so goddamn hard to get a job..

I have been thinking about seeing a therapist, we'll see how my income will be as I might not be able to afford it.

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