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[-] LadyAutumn 5 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

No I'm saying that using that term implies an expectation for those women that they are failing to meet. I am asking why he has an expectation for random women to not get those piercings. Re-read my comment omg ๐Ÿ™„

You also accused me of not knowing how to speak English while seemingly not understanding what the word dissappointed means.

[-] ameancow@lemmy.world 9 points 4 months ago

I've re-read your comment dozens of times trying to understand why this concept is lost on you, that it's FINE to be disappointed with someone's fashion choices, be it someone you know personally, or a generalized view of trends. It's OKAY. It doesn't MEAN anything other than, some people like things and other people do not. I too feel a sense of disappointment when people with otherwise pretty features accessorize it in ways that distract or detract from my preference. AND THAT'S ALSO OKAY.

You know what else? You're ALSO allowed to be disappointed with how some people dress, talk, act or just about ANYTHING else that you like or don't like. This is called being an adult human with values, taste and self-esteem.

Whatever cartoonish picture jumped into your head of some "alpha male" casting judgement on women he wants to sleep with, which I think you're picturing here, that shit is coming from a place of insecurity or pain inside YOU, this is not an objectifying or entitled attitude to express or hold. Disappointment with someone's choices is a normal and healthy thing that men and women feel and express all the time and sure it can become toxic in extreme circumstances, it's nowhere NEAR that to just express not liking a thing.

[-] LadyAutumn 5 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

He didn't say someone in particular. He said he was "disappointed so many girls" are getting those piercings. That doesn't imply specific women, it implies women in general.

It's fine for him not to like them, I'm calling out his use of language and how it implies that all women are beholden to some expectation he has for them.

The rest of your comment is genuinely bizarre and I have no idea what you're even talking about. Read through the comment tree again. I never said anything about who the commenter was. Just calling out something he said and the implication inherent in it.

[-] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 5 points 4 months ago

and we're calling out your use of language and the implication inherent in it.

[-] LadyAutumn 5 points 4 months ago

Youre mischaracterizing what I said as though I made some comment about the commenter having preferences. Which is not and never was what I said.

If you're going to call out something I said and the implication in it, at least tell me what I said that you're calling out and what the implication was in what I said.

[-] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 5 points 4 months ago

I for one, am disappointed in you.

[-] LadyAutumn 2 points 4 months ago

Cool. You're so brave.

[-] Spectrism@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 4 months ago

"it implies women in general."

No, it implies a specific group of women, namely those with such piercings.

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