Works both ways though. That was a big point of contention while I was married: if you want special treatment for any item of clothes, it’s up to you to at least turn it inside out and sort it into the “special needs” bin. I’m not reading every label on all the clothes for the entire family.

However she never did. Just complained when it went through the normal wash with hundreds of other items. Who’s your momma now? Your big hairy momma with a beard?

I’m pretty sure they were mocking their lack of responsibility vs saying only women do laundry. It’s the same joke as saying you live in your parents basement.

Are women excluded from the group of people whose “mommies do everything for them”? Perhaps commonly, it’s a genuine question.

I do see the thought of it being a mom instead of a dad adheres to traditional gender roles, although I wonder about an individual’s obligation to resist playing into that tradition. I can see it being harmful.

My assumption was the joke was that OP's mom does their laundry for them as if is OP was a child, not that women are constrained to doing laundry. It's not like I didn't clock the joke. The kernel of truth was the idea that doing those 3 things might be a pain to do, and even my partner complained about having to be careful with certain clothing when I taught her how to do the laundry (which I still primarily do), but it's good for people to have these skills, regardless of gender. On the flip side, she stopped complaining when she realized how much longer her clothing lasts now.

Also, my parents divided chores up, and my mom was in charge of the laundry while my dad did the cooking growing up because they each preferred doing those chores. Had nothing to do with gender, but maybe that's why I didn't immediately consider the assumption that somebody's mother does their laundry as sexist. Sometimes, it's just like that.

On the topic of you making wild assumptions about another's thought process (unless you're a mind reader, and I missed that), I was carrying on to say with my comment that OP should do all that. Not their mother.