Don't blame the tool for the behavior of its user. You should try Stackoverflow. That place is toxically moderated...no, moderated isn't the right word. Gatekept. Ask one poorly worded question because you're trying to work something out and not sure how to phrase the question? Fucking amateur, you're banned! I moved to reddit to get away from the SO culture and I'm hopeful lemmy can fill that niche.

...and I too love challenging bigots. "Why" is a question they don't like hearing.